Another year passes. With the first birthdays, in the Maiden stage, each one becomes a celebratory milestone, but after a woman reaches 30 in our culture, we begin to associate a feeling of trepidation with the passing of another year. Why? What’s not to celebrate? Forget that our society foolishly worships youth and suffers from a chronic case of Peter Pan Syndrome; instead, celebrate, be joyful, embrace each year, embrace each change within yourself. You are not aging, you are growing. This is the difference, this is what our culture, our society, doesn’t see, or tries to deny. With time women grow wiser, more assertive, more complete within themselves. They Bloom!
The 10th Year
The Threshold: Childhood…Maidenhood
I still have one foot in the world of my childhood, but I can see through the open threshold before me. The view is hazy yet. It’s still so early, and I am still so young. I see a shadow of the woman I will become.
The 20th Year
The Threshold: Adolcescence…Adulthood
I’m taking baby steps, trying out my adult legs, finding my center. Which direction will I go? Where will I establish my roots?…roots of career and relationships. The foundation I build now will determine the stability of my future. Is it really all just a roll of the dice, or does destiny lay in my young and inexperienced hands?
The 30th Year
The Threshold: Maidenhood…Motherhood
I step through a doorway to find myself standing in the mad rush of Life. I am careening along at full speed, swerving to avoid potholes, watching the clock, knowing that I have a destination and a dead line to meet, knowing I have an appointment with Responsibility.
The 40th Year
The Threshold: Motherhood…Middleage
I’m at a crossroads, no longer young, but not yet old. The world around me appears to lose focus as boundaries and expectations are blurred. What once was perfectly clear is now laced with questions. The Universe is giving me a choice. I watch in alarmed fascination as new paths open before me, each yellow brick road beckoning me, “Come this way!”
The 50th Year
The Threshold: Middleage…The Crone
I suddenly realize who I am, I mean the “me” that I must have lost along the way. I suddenly realize that the only opinion that counts is my own. I suddenly realize who my friends are and who they aren’t. I suddenly realize that I am not afraid to face the world alone. I suddenly realize that I have reached a plateau enabling me to scrutinize my past and glimpse my future. I suddenly realize…I have arrived.
The 60th Year
The Threshold: The Crone…The Golden Age
I’m at a crossroads, no longer middle-aged, but not yet old, not really, I say with defiance. My body speaks to me now, still proud of its strength, its endurance. My body speaks to me with relish, embracing the last blazing autumn of life.
The 70th Year
The Threshold: The Golden Age…Old Age
I will reap what I have sown, whether this be children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren, or the golden glow of accomplishments. I will stop to smell the roses. I will stop to watch the sunset. I will stop to pet a dog, or hold a cat. I will stop to speak to an old friend. I will stop to say, “I love you.”; “Hello”; “Good-by”; and “I’m sorry.”
The 80th Year
The Threshold: The Crone Glorified
I am elevated. From this vantage point I stand in the stillness of dawn. I stand in the midst of gentle rain on black earth. I stand in the warmth of a loved one’s hand on my arm. I stand, not in the shadow of The Crone, but shoulder to shoulder with her. I am one with the goddess.
The 90th Year
The Threshold: Rebirth
I look at the world and see it as hazy images in a crystal ball. The images are people I’ve loved, places I’ve been, things I’ve done. And as I stare at the images within this universal sphere, I can see that they are fading, getting dimmer, and soon they will disappear. I know that as these images and this world are fading. I know there is another beautiful glorious crystal ball, and within it I can see the sunrise bursting over the horizon, lighting the way for a new journey…in the next Life.
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