tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4218860893497128837.post4799313461330754647..comments2023-06-13T04:20:51.940-07:00Comments on Every Cat Has a Tale: It Cannot Be, That I Am He...Amythyst Rainehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07605683758057978088noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4218860893497128837.post-30812743670818557292015-04-22T08:14:31.477-07:002015-04-22T08:14:31.477-07:00Oh, Anne...I can still hear the pain and heartache...Oh, Anne...I can still hear the pain and heartache that this situation caused you, even though it turned out positively in the end. Sometimes I think I actually envy the Lone Wolf-- life would be much simpler, with less complications and emotional highs and lows. But you know what...just like the Wolf, we're a pack animal.Amythyst Rainehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11140948513545019206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4218860893497128837.post-32235455852638433222015-04-21T22:15:22.235-07:002015-04-21T22:15:22.235-07:00I must admit I also feel your pain as all of us wh...I must admit I also feel your pain as all of us who have been through the unfortunate realization that whom we thought was our "closest friend, our sister" we may never have had turns out to be the one person we never thought would betray us. It is extremely hurtful, causing us to question ourselves about all we may have said, done or even not said or done. There are many ppl who can go on w/o any explanation. I myself am not one. For over a year my "closest friend" ignored me. At first I didn't even see it(she was raising 2 kids on her own, working) it was very subtle. I was busy attempting to heal from my past. One evening it came to me. I suddenly realized she hadn't initiated any conversations with me, never returned my texts or msg. I left. I stopped all communication with her, never asked what happened. When I finally heard from her it had been a year and a half gone by. She came to my Mom's house( where I'm living) one afternoon, just showed up. Anger ran through me when I opened the door and saw her. I wasn't even going to invite her in, but I did. She followed me to the deck and started talking as if nothing had changed. It was then I told her, I have not considered us as friends for over a year and told her why. Her comment was " well I never meant" that's all , nothing more and continued to tell me about her life. How do ppl become so selfish, so self-absorbed? She left and I didn't hear from her again until the following Spring. She sent me a msg thru FB. She said she realized how horrible of a friend she had been, that I had not done anything to deserve the way she had treated me and asked if I would consider being her friend again, apologized for all the pain she had given me and would I be able to forgive her and give her another chance of our friendship? Long story short I did. It's not easy to let go of past hurts, but we must so that we ourselves can heal. Too often closure does not come easily. Sometimes we must force closure w/o answers. Other times our own pain is so deep we can never have complete closure, this becomes our own battle. Betrayal in any form is very painful. I have a pic with a saying of a somewhat thin grey wolf. " It gets lonely being the lone wolf." I'm glad I have given my friend a second chance.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09306240174621598353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4218860893497128837.post-59697261622590814412015-04-21T13:57:51.603-07:002015-04-21T13:57:51.603-07:00I love your beautiful encouraging words! I actual...I love your beautiful encouraging words! I actually believe that too-- that genuine friendship (and genuine people) are real, and they *Are* out there, and our paths *Will* cross. You are *Inspiring* Morgana!...makes me want to go make a blanket fort on the back deck right now :) I think the important thing here is not to give up on the idea of friendship and it's existence. It would be awful to miss out on something wonderful in life because of a bad experience(s).Amythyst Rainehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11140948513545019206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4218860893497128837.post-19585292803083841492015-04-21T13:51:46.611-07:002015-04-21T13:51:46.611-07:00{{gentle hugs}} My heart hurt for you as I read y...{{gentle hugs}} My heart hurt for you as I read your words describing the loss of a friendship and betrayal. Your blog topic hit home hard for me because your story is my story too. You found closure and that marks the beginning of healing. <br /><br />I have been down this road not once, not twice, but three times. The last one hurt really bad and involved my being, "outed." I believe there is that one special friend out there waiting for us, you know the one we can make a blanket fort on the back porch and drink tea with or wine. The one that will ask how deep do ya need that hole dug and the one that will pull us up when we are down. :) Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00892350439749267775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4218860893497128837.post-48520260685240949302015-04-21T13:39:55.155-07:002015-04-21T13:39:55.155-07:00Thank you, Danielle! True friends are rare gems, s...Thank you, Danielle! True friends are rare gems, so I've heard. I see that you also experienced your own relationship trauma of sorts-- it's a strange, strange world, isn't it. I'm so glad that you have such a positive attitude about it! Blessings, AmythystAmythyst Rainehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11140948513545019206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4218860893497128837.post-17492503170995673312015-04-21T13:20:55.025-07:002015-04-21T13:20:55.025-07:00I am so sorry you had to go through that. My best ...I am so sorry you had to go through that. My best friend ended up marrying my exhusband. But what I realized was that I was better off without them... And let trash have trash lol. <br />I think your amazing and I hope u find that bestfriend that you deserve. Lots of love and light your way Danielle 😍Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03767159919724656830noreply@blogger.com