...when someone has you cornered (figuratively speaking), I was told to go with my first instinct because it's usually the right choice. You also don't want to give up, lessen your efforts, or turn your back; don't give your enemy an advantage.
...the word 'hate'. Someone was told that "that's a pretty strong word". Well, yes it is-- that's the point. The responder replied: "What's the opposite of love?"......point made. It's okay to 'hate' someone; it's a good honest, kick in the ass emotion. Christians can get all fucked up over the use of this word and the reality of this emotion, but damn it, sometimes it fits the bill to a T.
...be gone troublemaker, sez I. *wicked grin*
Okay, now for the positive side of the coin:
...the man who makes you laugh is the man you want to keep. Everything else will fall into place; and if he knows, right from jump street, where to touch your funny bone, he'll learn where all the other important parts of you are as well.
...admire the individual who doesn't give up in the face of adversity; who never backs down from a good fight (especially when it's for "the principle of the thing"); and who can do it on his own, but asks for your help and support anyway.
...soul mates. I was told that it might take a life time to find your soul mate, and if you've been burned in a few bad relationships from the beginning, those relationships were 'learning experiences', so that when you finally hit it right, there would be no comparison-- and no doubt.
Do you have any idea how bad I needed this? For 3 years I have been 1000% committed to a man who went overseas to work for DOD. I have taken care of his life here as though he never left. Stayed faithful. We were suppose to get married this week. He comes home and dumps me, my whole world felt like it fell out from underneath me.
ReplyDeleteConsider it a 'learning experience', Lisa, and it's a harsh one at that. Think-- 'refocus, refocus, refocus'...and don't be surprised if it takes you a while to get your pins under you; sounds like you had the rug pulled out from beneath your feet with absolutely no warning. One final thought-- this guy is seriously fucked up, don't let him drag you down that cesspool...it's going to take you a bunch of strength and determination, but you can-- and you *Will* rise above it.
DeleteDamn straight...sometimes there are people who simply deserve
ReplyDeletemy hate. Nice to see it, refreshing even! I could add to it & say there are some people you don't have to forgive. A few poisonous ones who absolutely don't deserve my forgiveness & I have no problem with that.
Thanks, Amethyst.
Me neither, Linda...I screw Christians up when I discuss this topic with them-- I don't have to forgive, and believe me, I never forget. :) Also, along these same lines, if I didn't like someone when they were alive, I'm not going to change my opinion of them just because they died-- this attitude also messes with some people's heads.
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