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Tuesday, December 21, 2021

When Does Flirting Become Cheating ~ 9 red flags

 

  • A Note from The Boundary Fairy:  

It’s hard to believe that there are people who really don’t understand these boundaries, but there are. So to those people, and to uncomfortable or suspicious spouses/partners, here’s some confirmation that you have a right to be giving your better half the stink eye.



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  • 1. When it's secretive.

If you are deleting your emails — either to a second party or from a second party — that's a red flag. Because by deleting them, you are guessing that your spouse/partner would be upset if they read them, and that you are covering up something. 

Moreover, ask yourself this question: How would I feel if I knew my spouse (or partner) were corresponding to an attractive person in the way I talk to X?  

If you feel an uncomfortable knot in your stomach upon answering that question, there you go.

  • 2. If it has a sexual agenda.

This isn't always obvious, of course. But if you notice that your correspondence with this person feeds your sexual fantasies (because an affair is often about sexual fantasy), then you are probably in dangerous waters. If the communication consists of subtle sexual overtones, watch out. 

If it feels like foreplay in anyway, that’s not good.

  • 3. If you're spending a considerable amount of time talking to him (her).

According to marriage therapist Allyson P., a person needs to consider not only the content of the messages sent back and forth but also the amount of them. For example, if you are emailing a "friend" 15 times a day, that's a tad extreme, even if the content is about SpongeBob Square-Pants. 

A friend of mine confessed to me that she would spend two hours every night on Facebook chatting with an online buddy until she realized that was more time than she was spending with her husband.

  • 4. If you are rationalizing.

"They are just a friend" is a statement that you don't say to yourself when you're involved in innocent communication. Do you feel the need to justify a very safe friendship? No. It's obvious to you and to your mate that the companionship is completely appropriate. 

However, you may very well be investing in an unsafe friendship if you are constantly wrestling with guilt or feel the need to rationalize.

  • 5. If it's meeting your personal needs.

If you are getting your intimacy needs met in an online relationship or with a co-worker with whom you playfully banter, you might stop to ask yourself why. Be especially careful if you’re sharing intimate sentiments with that person that you don’t share with your spouse/partner, or if you feel like your online companion understands you in a way that your spouse/partner doesn't. Be on guard if you are receiving satisfaction from this person in any way that you don't at home.

  • 6. If you talk about your marriage or your spouse.

It's disrespectful to share intimate details about your marriage/relationship or your spouse/partner, and especially in a discourteous manner or with a flippant attitude. Imagine that your spouse/partner were overhearing your entire conversation. Would you still say it?

  • 7. If your spouse doesn't like it.

You have just won a red flag if a spouse or partner has expressed disapproval of your communication with X, because it usually means that either the content of the correspondence or the amount of it is off balance.  This is a warning that the interaction isn't totally appropriate, or the time spent talking (online or offline) with this person is distracting from family life.

  • 8. If your friend voices concern.

Pay attention if a good friend asks you why you are talking about this person so much, or if they say something like, "Wake up. You are in a committed relationship. They are in a committed relationship. You need to focus on what you have and stop obsessing about what you don't." 

Friends, sisters, and mothers can often identify the red flags before you are willing to recognize them yourself.

  • 9. If your intentions are wrong.

Let's say your spouse/partner is constantly knocking you down, nagging at you, telling you to lose 20 pounds because they didn't intend to marry a beached whale. The natural, or at least easy, thing to do is to find a new attractive person who will feed your ego and tell you that you’re sexy, funny, smart, and so on. 

Some folks may unconsciously seek out an admirer to get their spouse or partner to take notice of them. It can be effective! But it's also manipulative. There are healthier ways to increase your self-esteem.


Friday, December 17, 2021

Patron's Page ~ view free exclusive videos at The Witch's Corner

 
On this page you’ll find private videos that are created exclusively for The Patron’s Page. Some of these videos will be free, but they will be posted as private unlisted videos at YouTube and will only be viewable on this page. These videos may include tarot readings, special information and previews on books and other upcoming projects, magical information and spells, as well as videos of my personal life and reflections.

There may also be videos on this page that you have to purchase to view..
When you make a purchase, be sure to include a working email address. The link to these private unlisted videos will be emailed to you.

https://amythystraine.blogspot.com/p/patrons-page.html





Thursday, December 16, 2021

Whimsical Tarot ~ Spirit knows...

 



Here's a few precious seconds of positive energy and a look on the bright side... Spirit knows, Spirit encourages, Spirit imbues



Wednesday, December 15, 2021

"Limerence" ~ an obsession

 
"Limerence"... is a romantic obsession with an individual you are not with. This is often an Ex.  But it could also be a stranger, a casual acquaintance, or even a celebrity.

*Note: when an individual has been separated from an Ex for a period of time, their brain starts to remember only the "good" things about being with them, burying all the problems and flaws, this is called the "Halo-effect". 

Can you be "just friends" with someone you are experiencing limerence with? No... to recover from the obsession, you have to go No Contact.





Monday, December 13, 2021

Patron's Page ~ The Devil & The Hedonist

 

I just uploaded a private video for the Patron's Page. The only place you can purchase this video is at this link:
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  • Patron's Vid #5 ~ The Devil & The Hedonist

The Devil made me do it. So, what's your poison?
 
This video embraces the awkward world of the hedonist and their addictions. This video gives advice to the innocent people caught in the web of someone else's weakness... heed it.





Romantic obsession ~ know when to let go

 



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Friday, December 10, 2021

Manipulating the manipulator

 



Welcome to Casa Monteraine and another informal video chat. As I announce in this video, I am no longer giving personal tarot readings, but you will find a plethora of videos and info at my website The Tarot Parlour, and I will continue to produce new videos for my YouTube channel. 

The Tarot Parlour ~ 

My Youtube Channel ~ 

The Witch's Corner ~ 

Every Cat Has a Tale ~ 

Magickal Connections ~ 

My books @ Amazon ~ 





Wednesday, December 8, 2021

Whimsical Tarot ~ Seek the forest and the moonlight

 



You'll find your answers in the wise twinkling eyes of the crone, the mysteries of the forest, and the visions you'll see in the moonlight.

Slightly Expanded version, aka what I originally wrote for the narration:

  • Three of Boons…

Someone so much more experienced in life and in the ways of the world is stirring the pot of manifestation. With a gleam in her eye and a twinkling of her cauldron, she see’s what the future can be, she knows the paths you should be taking, and she knows the short cuts through the dark woods.

  • The Forest Lord…

He is complacent in his position within the forest. He knows who his stalwart defenders are. The Forest Lord is neither rushed to reach his goal, nor is he anxious for the final outcome. He has set his course, checked his defenses, and is sure of his power.

  • Moonlight…

As the silver light and mystical shadows fall upon the clearing, the truth is hidden somewhere close by, in those dark places so many of us are afraid to go. Don’t be tricked by the whimsical face of the moon, lift the fern, look behind the branches of the trees, watch the reflections on the pond for visions that bring clarity.



Monday, December 6, 2021

A new connection brings new issues

 



For some of you Gemini, there is a new relationship on the horizon, but as positive as that sounds, it may bring with it a myriad of problems and issues that need positive resolvement.



Sunday, December 5, 2021

The Cottage Fairy

 
I've discovered another beautiful YouTube channel... The Cottage Fairy. This lady tapes some of the most visually gorgeous videos without a ton of expensive cameral equipment, which makes her creative process and final product even more amazing.  She's a very talented videographer, has an interesting life style and interests, has a beautiful soft calm voice, and her channel is just so appealing on so many levels.

Enjoy!... and go subscribe.











Thursday, December 2, 2021

From Casa Monteraine ~ the best-laid plans of mice and men

 



Something is not going to work out as originally planned. So look around you... if something doesn't work out as planned, Who Will Benefit from This Turn of Events???