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Thursday, April 28, 2022

The Things We Do for Love n' Money


The introduction to Part 4: Magick for Love n' Money, page 146, in my book:
Natural Magick the Gray Witch Way @ Amazon

Two things in this world that most preoccupy our minds and determine the quality of our existence are love and money.  We can't survive without one, and we don't want to live without the other.  But even in the midst of working magick to bring love and money into our lives, we self-consciously feel the need to temper this desire and our magick with self-imposed restrictions:  "This spell is not to make you rich..."; "It's unethical to target a particular person in a love spell..."; "Only ask for the necessities...".

In the midst of the magick, we feel compelled to hold back, whether through societal conditioning or mainstream religious influence.  It's only when the witch can step beyond these boundaries -- into the realm of the Wild Woman, the wizard, the world of infinite possibilities and unbridled occult energy -- that she can throw restraint to the winds and attain that which she truly desires and deserves.

Use the correspondences in this section to bring into your life riches that will heighten your existence and love that will take your breath away.

If you don't already have a copy of this book, click on the link at the beginning of this post to purchase your copy at Amazon -- in Print or Kindle.

Of all the books on spells and potions and foot stompin' magick I've written, this is my favorite.  It's absolutely filled with magical gems rooted in hoodoo and witchcraft.  It's also the book where I've been the most open and frank when it comes to discussing several hot-topic issues in our occult circles that trigger some people.  If you agree with my philosophy and perspective, yay!!, you'll love this book; and if you don't -- then write a review, let's hear your perspective.

Queen of Swords


Daily Tarot Card ~ Queen/swords, Light Seers Tarot

Someone is taking some quiet solitary time to really sit back and think something through very analytically, with deep intellectual thought. You are removing yourself from the line of fire, or the hub of a chaotic or messy situation, to figure out what you want to do and where you want to go from here. This card tells me that someone is putting thoughts (and words) together in a careful and mindful matter so that they are clearly understood. There have been enough misunderstandings and miscommunication.

Tuesday, April 26, 2022

5 Famous Cold Cases ~ still unsolved


If you've known me for any length of time, you know that I'm fascinated by true crime cases, especially unsolved cold cases.  I have some favorite YouTubers that produce amazing videos on these subjects (both solved and unsolved murders), and I'll put links at the bottom of this post to their YouTube channels and playlists.  I'll be reading this article and watching these videos right along with you.  I hope you find it as intriguing as I do!

Armchair detectives, let's put our sleuth hats on, and dig in...

  • The Zodiac Killer

Believed to have killed at least five people in northern California from 1968 to 1969, the Zodiac killer has remained unknown since his first murders: the shooting of a teenage couple. When another couple was shot in 1969 (this time one of the victims survived), the killer called the police to take responsibility for both crimes. He also wrote taunting letters to newspapers. The letters often began with the words “This is the Zodiac speaking” and ended with a symbol resembling the crosshairs of a gun sight.

Those newspapers published not only the killer’s letters, but also the ciphers he sent along with them. The papers encouraged the public to help decode the secret messages. One text, known as the 408 cipher, contained the message: “I like killing people because it is so much fun.” Another, the 340 cipher, wasn’t decoded until 2020. It began, “I hope you are having lots of fun in trying to catch me."

But the letters and the decoded ciphers haven’t been enough to crack the case. Though several suspects have been investigated, the Zodiac killer’s identity has never been proven. The most scrutinized suspect, schoolteacher Arthur Leigh Allen, was institutionalized in 1975 for unrelated crimes. And when we consider the theories that the killer was active before 1968 and well into the ’80s, we have to admit that we don’t even know for sure how many people he killed.

  • JonBenet Ramsey

No suspects have ever been arrested for the murder of JonBenét Ramsey, a six-year-old beauty pageant winner found dead in the basement of her family’s Boulder, Colorado, home on December 26, 1996. Early that morning, JonBenét’s mother Patsy had called 911 and stated that her daughter was missing and that a ransom note found in the house demanded $118,000 for her return.

A few hours later though, the family and the police discovered that JonBenét had never actually left the house. When prompted to conduct a second search of the house, her father John found her body in the basement. She’d been bound and gagged and killed with a blow to the head and a garotte fashioned from one of Patsy’s paintbrushes and a length of cord. Investigators later revealed that JonBenét had also been sexually assaulted.

Suspects soon emerged, including a random intruder; a family friend who had dressed as Santa Claus for the Ramseys’ Christmas parties; JonBenét’s parents' and her nine-year-old brother Burke. One reason the case remains in the public imagination is that much of the investigation was bungled. Soon after the police first arrived at the Ramsey home, before it could be thoroughly combed for physical evidence, friends of the Ramseys arrived to show support for the family, and the police allowed them to traverse the house freely. Some of the friends even helped Patsy clean the kitchen. If conclusive physical evidence had existed, it was almost immediately destroyed.

  • The Black Dahlia

On January 15, 1947, 22-year-old Elizabeth Short was found dead in residential Los Angeles. Her body was so mutilated that the woman who discovered it, a mother on a walk with her young daughter, thought she had stumbled upon a mannequin.

The case was an immediate sensation. Short was soon nicknamed The Black Dahlia, in reference to her alleged penchant for sheer black dresses and for the 1946 film noir The Blue Dahlia, which featured the murder of an unfaithful housewife. Short was characterized as a flighty party girl with a record of underage drinking. Apparently, developing a catalogue of a young woman’s exploits was more exciting than mourning her loss. Letters the alleged killer sent to the police only exacerbated the media frenzy.

Ever since Short’s murder was deemed a cold case, amateur sleuths have presented their own solutions. One former police detective publicly accused his late father of the murder, inspiring the TV miniseries I Am the Night. A British researcher suggested that California police had conspired with the killer.

But because most of the physical evidence in the case has been lost to time and police mishandling, and because most of the key players are now deceased, no theory is likely to ever be proven beyond a reasonable doubt.

  • The Hall-Mills Murders

The murders of a pastor and a choir singer on a makeshift lovers’ lane shocked a small town and brought forth rampant accusations, inconsistent witness testimony, and more than one false confession.

The year was 1922, and New Brunswick, New Jersey, minister Edward Wheeler Hall was having an extramarital affair with a member of his congregation, the also-married Eleanor Mills. On September 14, the two of them left their respective family homes to meet each other. When Hall didn’t return home that night, his wife Frances and one of his brothers-in-law began a search, but neither Hall nor Mills were found until two days later, when another couple walking lovers’ lane found their bodies under a crab apple tree. Hall had been shot once through the head, but Mills’s body had been brutalized: she had been shot in the face three times and her throat had been slashed so deeply that she had nearly been decapitated. Later an autopsy revealed that her tongue and larynx had been cut out. After they were killed, the couple’s bodies had been arranged in a near-embrace.

The case was clearly personal. Though Hall and Mills’s affair had apparently been common knowledge around town, both of their spouses claimed to have been in the dark, an assertion that struck investigators (and the tabloids, which seized upon the story immediately) as highly suspicious. Frances, along with her brothers William and Henry Stevens, were considered prime suspects.

But try as it might, the prosecution could find no evidence to convict the siblings. Witness statements kept changing, likely influenced by the press coverage. Attention-seekers kept confessing to the murders, and physical evidence was destroyed when sightseers trampled the crime scene looking for souvenirs. As a result, Edward and Eleanor’s murders were never solved.

  • Lizzie Borden

Lizzie Borden took an axe/ And gave her mother forty whacks/ And when she saw what she had done/ She gave her father forty-one.

The famous rhyme makes it seem as if there has never been any doubt as to whether Lizzie Borden killed her father and stepmother on August 4, 1892. Officially, the identity of the murderer remains a mystery.

Lizzie and a maid, Bridget Sullivan, were alone in the Borden house with Mr. and Mrs. Borden when Lizzie, according to her testimony, discovered her father's dead body. He had been repeatedly struck in the head with a blunt instrument. Upstairs, she found the body of her stepmother. Initially, the evidence against Lizzie looked damning. She had recently attempted to purchase prussic acid (a poison) and was alleged to have burned a dress in the stove. What’s more, Sullivan, her suspected accomplice, was seen on the evening of August 4 carrying a parcel out of the house.

But at Lizzie’s trial in 1893, the court determined that all of this evidence was merely circumstantial. Lizzie wasn’t convicted, and no other suspects were ever arrested.

The Source for this post:

author:  Meg Matthias

As I told you, I have some favorite YouTube True Crimers, and here's links to three of them:

Baily Sarian and a link to her playlist:  "Murder, Mystery, & Makeup"

Stephanie Harlow and a link to her playlist:  "Mystery Monday"

Mike, and a link to his channel:  "That Chapter"

Monday, April 18, 2022

The Spirits Speak ~ You have been chosen as the catalyst


The Deck:  Green Witchcraft Tarot
The Cards:  The Battle Wagon -- reversed; The Sidhe; 2/pentacles

Someone is going no where fast, and you seem to be the individual the universe has chosen to set this someone right.  (lucky you)  While they are charging through life, barrelling along at breath taking speed towards a predictable crash, you may feverishly be working behind the scenes to manifest a right outcome for them, even though they seem to be oblivious, or don't much care. There is the distinct feeling that your interference will be met with resentment and passionate resistance.  Ignore this, do it anyway.  In the end -- when their eyes are finally open to reality, or they see a positive outcome through you -- they will be grateful.  For now, they will be a brat.

Catalyst... a person or thing that precipitates an event.

Friday, April 15, 2022

Evolvement ~ the journey


This reading gives us a unique look at the journey of three individuals, or the evolvement of a single person, to a place where they are able to assert their will, make rational decisions, and realize that life's choices are indeed theirs and theirs alone... as with some readings, the reading itself was an evolving thing, working through the layers of cards to reach the point.

Thursday, April 14, 2022

Stereotypically Deliciously Wicked ~ Wicked Witch Fidelity Spells


(Oh, come on now, you know you would, if you could)

“Make Her Behave” Knot Spell

If you’re considering using this spell, you apparently have a lady with a voracious appetite for sex and not much of a penchant for monogamy. You will use this spell to tame the wild beast, to curb her philandering behavior, and to keep her charms all to yourself.

For this spell you’ll want a red ribbon, traditionally nine feet in length, the typical length for knot magick. You will anoint this ribbon with intimate fluids from her body. This spell may take several days to complete, for over the course of time, you will call out your woman’s name, and once she responds to your voice, you will tie a knot in the red ribbon.

You will tie knots in the red ribbon in the order that follows:


When this part of the spell has finally been completed, and all nine knots are tied, you will place this ribbon in a red bag. Along with the ribbon, you will add a pubic hair from this fem-fatale and copious amounts of nutmeg.

Keep this charm close. As long as you have it, you have the upper hand; and your enchantress shall receive all of her satisfaction from you and you alone.

"Keep Him Faithful" Spell

This spell is the feminine version of the ‘Make Her Behave’ spell for men, only there’s a special twist at the end. For traditional knot magick, as I’ve said, you want a red ribbon approximately nine feet in length, and you will be tying nine knots in this ribbon in a particular order-- one knot every time you get your man to answer to your call. It may take a while for you to complete this first phase of the spell, but patience is required, and it will be worth it in the end.

As stated above, this is the order in which you will tie the knots:


After the first phase of the spell is complete, you’ve called your man’s name nine times, and nine times he’s answered you, it’s time to add this ribbon to a red bag.

Here’s where this spell can take a little twist from the version above. If you are working this magick, it’s obviously because your man has been-- or is being-- unfaithful. Think long and hard about whether you want this character back, whether you want to keep him and his manly charms all to yourself, or would you rather have revenge?

To keep him faithful: Place this red knotted ribbon in a red bag, along with one of the target’s pubic hairs and plenty of nutmeg to inspire monogamy and adoring faithfulness.


To kill his libido and bring on a bout of impotence: Place this red knotted ribbon in a red bag and add one of your man’s pubic hairs to the bag as well. You will also add the following items -- cayenne pepper, Goofer Dust, a length of morning glory vine, and the carcass of a fly. Now spit in the bag and seal it shut. Bury this delectable little morsel in the ground, preferably on land that belongs to the target, or at least in a place close by, where you know that it will be undisturbed.


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Even if you're not a practitioner, you might find this book highly intriguing, if not down-right entertaining.  I guarantee that you'll find things in this book you never imagined.

Wednesday, April 13, 2022

A Conundrum ~ two people waiting on a decision

This reading was like pulling teeth.  It took the last set of cards to finely define the characters of these individuals, who appear to be women, as well as their aspirations and expectations.  This feels like an ongoing situation... so what will the outcome be?

Tuesday, April 12, 2022

Three Scenarios ~ three people? or all the same poor soul?


Once again, there are three people in this reading, maybe these are three completely separate individuals dealing with their own lives and their own personal dilemmas...

Or is this all one person?

  • 1)  2/swords; 3/pentacles

You are  being bombarded with unwelcome advice and criticism.  In the midst of this bombardment, caught in the act of trying to protect and defend yourself, you lose sight of what it is you're working towards and which direction you want to go.  You thought you had it figured out, you thought you had it carefully planned, you thought it would work.  But these voices, these people and the chaotic confusing energy they are creating has interfered with your mind and your train of thought.

Advice/solution:  King/cups

Follow your heart.  Discard the negative opinions being shot your way, or even the negative people, if this is how far you want to go. Know that your own instinctive intuitive knowledge is correct.  Know that you had it right the first time, all those plans, all those ideas and goals.  Know that sometimes in life there are people who are actually afraid of someone else's success, someone else's bold plans and actions, because they themselves are scared and insecure.

  • 2)  Page/wands -- reversed; The Chariot -- reversed

You may feel totally upended.  You had something planned, you were ready to go, and wham -- someone did something to knock the energy, passion, and enthusiasm right out from under you.  You seem to have lost your desire as well, for this thing you were ready to do, this place you were ready to go, perhaps this person  you were running towards.

It's like the air has been let out of your balloon.  

What happened?  What did they do?  What were you told?  What did you discover?  What was revealed?  What was the turning point for you, that maybe changed your mind?

Advice/solution:  3/cups -- reversed

Leave the crowd behind, leave the clique behind; leave behind other people's expectations, and unnecessary burdens, and impossible standards.  Step away from an individual, or a group, that are clouding your judgement, making you question your decisions and choices, making you feel unsure of the world around you and of reality itself.

Step away into the lovely oblivion of introspection.  Reacquaint yourself with the world as you last saw it, when your visions, dreams, and goals were clear, and sharp, and in focus.  Go within to find yourself, and then trust your instincts and move forward.

  • 3)  King/cups -- reversed; 2/pentacles -- reversed

Your indecision, your inability to make a choice; the idea that you have that this situation can go on indefinitely and doesn't need immediate attention... this is all maddening to the individuals in your life, specifically the individuals directly connected to this dilemma.

There is the feeling of something, or someone, or a situation being trapped in a strange sense of "limbo", not being able move forward, or backward, and the idea that with this state of being everything will be lost.  If you would only make a decision and stick to it... that's the trouble here, you see, that you keep changing your mind.

Advice/solution:  9/cups -- reversed

You will never get exactly what you wished for, and even if  you would, it would not live up to what you thought it would be.  Are your expectations too high, or unrealistic, or romanticized?  With this third reading, there is just the most disheartening feeling that you will never be realistically happy, and I hate to end a reading on such a negative note.  So let me leave you with some suggestions:

  • learn to live in the moment
  • know that what you have right now may be all you get
  • don't give up so easily -- on a situation, a relationship, an individual, or yourself
  • learn patience
It's going to be up to you to learn to be content in life.  The ball is in your court.

Sunday, April 10, 2022

Are You Spiritually Connected to Your Partner ~ here's 7 signs you are

  • 1. Your instincts work at their best

You just know this person is right for you. There’s no reason for it. You simply know it and there’s no room for any doubt. When you are spiritually connected with someone, your instinct works well, and you don’t have any logical reason for it.

  • 2. You feel extremely secure, both emotionally and physically

When you are spiritually connected with someone, their presence calms you. All your anxiety, nervousness, and fears go away in their presence. You feel safe when they are around, and you feel like you can take over the world with them by your side. Their presence alone makes you feel calm and peaceful.

  • 3. You feel liberated around them

You find a free flow of expression whenever you are with them. There’s no restlessness in you.  Nothing holds you back. There’s an immense sense of liberation within you, and you feel free to be whomever you truly are.

  • 4. You feel you have known them since ages, even if you have met recently

Their presence strikes a chord in you. It occurs to you that you have known them in a previous life, and it’s quite unbelievable for you that the two of you have only recently met. There’s some sort of familiarity in them which draws you closer to them and makes you feel you are spiritually connected with them.

  • 5. You trust them blindly

You don’t even blink an eye before trusting them. You just know that they are the ones you should be trusting, and not just because you are drawn to them, but also because they are good and trustworthy people. There is something about them that always makes you believe them, and you feel that if you can’t trust them, you can’t trust anybody.

  • 6. You communicate in silence

Silence is one of the ways the two of you communicate. When you are with someone you are spiritually connected with, you don’t need to express your joy, or anxiety, or fear. They are empathically aware of how you feel. They understand your moods and reciprocate, and they know exactly what to do to make you feel better.

  • 7. You have deep conversations with them

Conversations with them are never shallow. You always explore your inner self when you are with them. When you are spiritually connected with someone, you have deep conversations, each one of which ends in an increase in your knowledge of yourself and the world around you. Every conversation with them is enriching, eye-opening, and emotionally and intellectually stimulating.


author:  Emilia Gordon

To read the complete article,
click  HERE

Saturday, April 9, 2022

Tarot Parlour Podcast: Family Inheritance Equals Family Squabbles


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Friday, April 8, 2022

Our Daily Cards ~ Today's Saga: The Labyrinth

The story today:

It involves a strongly built woman with blonde or light brunette hair.  She's large boned, but well proportioned, not heavy-set. She appears to be approximately 45-55 years old, give or take, sometimes it's hard to tell.  I think she's pretty, but I can't see her face, it's just a feeling.

There once was a couple, a pretty sombre conventional couple.  Their relationship was being negatively affected by an issue neither of them wanted to address directly.  Of course, this put a wedge between them, an emotional distancing, that left their connection quite cool.  We'll come back to them, one of them plays greatly in this saga.

The woman was mentally splintered and tortured by a forbidden connection, an indescribable attraction so strong that it was impossible to resist.  She found herself being pulled deeper and deeper into a labyrinth of deception and desire, both tantalized and tortured and captivated by it.

The woman soon realizes, in a surreal and distanced way, that something was happening to her, something which caused her to lose control... of her emotions, her thoughts, her body, her actions.  She felt her physical strength ebbing as she became less and less physically active or well.  She found it difficult to put the pieces of her life into proper perspective, as though her life were a puzzle and the pieces did not fit, or some were missing altogether.

There came a point in time, when the illicit passion of her lover waned, and he returned grudgingly to his mundane life and mundane wife, that the woman felt quite alone and abandoned in a landscape of life she no longer recognized.  It was at this point, caught in a very specific moment, when her will to fight and the boundaries which might have saved her faded into oblivion, that she took her own life.

*Note:  This is the first time I've attempted a reading this deep, or with mediumship connections, in a very long time.  I have used tarot cards in the past to do readings for criminal cold cases, but I have never left myself so open to the cards and their story, as I did today.  This reading was the result.

Thursday, April 7, 2022

Awash in Swords ~ You just can't hold this knight back


The knight of swords is so darn impulsive, jumping from one situation and relationship to another, without nary a thought of the consequences. As I promised in the video, here is a link to my blog post about the "serial over-lapper", someone who starts a new relationship before they have ended their present relationship... terrified of being alone, they must be. 

*note: this video has been added to the Desert Readings playlist, as it is in true form -- off camera.

The Spirits Speak: Two people want the same thing...

Two people want the same thing,
how is this going to roll?

The Deck: After Tarot 
The Cards:  Page/swords; 4/pentacles; 5/swords; 9/pentacles -- reversed; 8/wands; 9/swords

Today the cards are talking about opposition.  Two people trying with great effort to both claim the same thing,   And all this time, a third party trying desperately to hang onto it, whatever "it" is... general reading here, so there are many possibilities and scenarios:  a relationship, a material item, opportunities, a job, privileges, etc.

There is a lot of swift and impulsive communication going on, meaning that things will be said that may later be regretted, the truths may be stretched or exaggerated, as each party tries to make their case (court case? -- for someone).  It actually feels like two parties verbally bringing this issue before someone.  There is the feeling of each trying to convince a person who will make a decision that they are the better choice.  Who are they trying to convince?... a judge, a lover, an employer?

A swift decision will be coming.  The page of swords will get what it is they want, but the victory will be shallow, and it will lack the feel-good energy of  a genuine victory.  It will taste bittersweet.  The opposing party will be left decimated, and it may be a while before they can emotionally and mentally work through what it is they lost... and why.

Wednesday, April 6, 2022

If an Ex Contacts You Out-of-the-Blue


It can happen to any of us: One day, you're minding our own business and then your ex contacts you. Be it via text, Facebook, Instagram, or in person, this kind of run-in can make for a super awkward conversation, depending on how you handle it.

Whether the decision to split was a mutual one or you ended things on a sour note, the trepidation you feel when trying to figure out how to proceed is real. What should you do when your ex gets in touch out-of-the-blue? Try these things on for size:

  • Think About How it Will Affect You

This can be a super painful experience, one that could offer closure, or one that starts a rekindled relationship. Think about what you want out of the communication first and how it will affect you first before you respond.

"Know that you are under no obligation to respond," Meg Josephson, LCSW, told INSIDER. "Often, old relationships carry with them old wounds and unanswered questions. If you feel that making contact could bring this up for you and threaten your hard-earned happiness, take a pass! The amazing part of being out of the relationship is that you are only responsible for doing things that work for YOU, without regard to how it feels to them."

  • If You're Currently Dating Someone, You Should Consider Their Feelings

It may be a no-brainer that you immediately respond to your ex if you're single, but if you're already in a new relationship, it's important to take their feelings into account too.

"If you are currently in a relationship, consider how your partner would react to knowing that you engaged in conversation," Josephson told INSIDER. "I also find it helps to imagine how you would feel if the roles were reversed and they were in contact with a long-gone ex. Nothing like a change in perspective to keep you from responding impulsively."

  • Take Your Time Responding

You may feel an urgency to respond right away, but slowing down can make sure that you're happy with your response to your ex and that you are actually ready to handle speaking with them.

"You may have a strong emotional reaction if you hear from an ex you haven't spoken to in a long time, whether it be joy, sadness, or anger," Lindsey Pratt, LMHC, a therapist in NYC who specializes in relationships, told INSIDER. "However, try to pause before replying — it will help you gather your thoughts and become less reactive in your reply. Keep in mind, too, that this may be the only re-opened communication for a while, so being sure of how you want to respond is important.

  • Keep Your Response Light

When crafting your response, you may be tempted to lay it all on the table, but experts told INSIDER it's better to keep things light and breezy at first — especially if you don't know what their intentions are.

"If your relationship was basically healthy and ended due to bad timing, different paths at the time, life events, etc., then being open to this contact could be a comfortable and right move," said psychotherapist, relationship coach, and divorce mediator Toni Coleman, LCSW, CMC. "If so, keeping your response light and open-ended in order to get more information on why they are reaching out now, is the best move. This way you gather information before making any assumptions, or saying anything you may regret later."

  • Don't rush into a response, friendship, or rebound

No matter how you decide to approach the contact that's been made, don't rush things. You may very well end up back with this person, or at the very least good friends with them depending on how things go. But don't rush a response or a decision about what you two "are." That won't help the situation.

"If you plan on reconnecting with your ex, set clear boundaries on what you hope to achieve from rebuilding a friendship or relationship," said Marline Francois-Madden, LCSW and CEO of Hearts Empowerment Counseling Center.  "Don't allow your ex to make you feel guilty for setting boundaries and limitations on how you will interact with them. It is okay to let them know you are not interested in rebuilding again."

  • Be open and honest with them

No matter how the conversation goes, be sure that you're open and honest from the get-go. No matter how you want the talk to go, making sure everyone is on the same page can only be a good thing.
Be careful of falling into a "yo-yo relationship."

A whirlwind romance may seem like a good thing, but be sure not get swept up in the idea of an on-again-off-again relationship.

"Our culture has romanticized the on-again-off-again relationship a la Ross and Rachel," Hayden Lindsey, M.S. told INSIDER. "Yet, our best research shows that these yo-yo relationships have negative impacts on mental health and overall wellbeing. There are legitimate reasons to try again after a break up, but if you constantly find yourself in this push-pull, neither of you are getting the kind of love and cherishing you deserve."

  • If you do want to get back together make sure there is a good reason why

If they've reached out and seem intent on getting back together, there are some scenarios in which you can entertain it, but it all depends on how your initial relationship went.

"If an ex reaches out, there are certain scenarios where it would be completely appropriate to entertain the idea of getting back together," Erica Gordon, founder of The Babe Report, told INSIDER. "If, for example, you broke up with them because you were going through a hard time due to personal reasons or health reasons, and you're in a much better place now, it would be more than okay to agree to meet up with your ex. Perhaps your healthier state of mind will allow for a relationship to work out this time around."

  • Think about if you're leading them on

If they want to get back together with you and make that known, and you don't feel the same way, be sure that communicating back to them won't hurt them.

"There's also a chance that you don't care about your ex anymore and your ex cares about you. In that case, any type of communication can send the impression that your ex has a chance," Dr. Benjamin Ritter, founder of Live for Yourself Consulting, and The Breakup Supplement told INSIDER. "If you have an ex that still wants a relationship with you, then you need to pull back any engagement with that person, especially if you are dating someone else."

  • Don't expect the magic of "closure"

One of the most common reasons for reconnecting with an ex is "closure," but few people actually get it when talking to their ex.

"You realize that you will rarely get the "closure" (the holy grail) that people speak of," Meg Josephson, LCSW, told INSIDER. "The only one who can give you closure is yourself, and time. People have a whole host of reasons for wanting to get in touch with an ex, and sometimes, they don't even fully understand why they themselves are reaching out."


author:  Brittany Vincent

Friday, April 1, 2022

The Knights ~ complicated vanguards of the tarot


  • Knight/Pentacles ~ Taurus… Earth/Fire

Keywords ~ stable, stubborn, level-headed, honest, spoiled, tantrum thrower, jealous, loving, defensive, insecure, independent, thought provoking, helpful, generous, argumentative, childish

The Dark Side ~

This Knight’s calm quiet exterior can often mask a churning anger and volatile temper. He’s often a spoiled soul who feels the need to get his way, to manipulate the people and circumstances around him, and to be adored during all of it. He loves praise, his vanity glows and twinkles with every moment of adulation he can squeeze out of a situation. His worst nightmare would be to be seen as he really is, because deep down he knows. He works hard to maintain a noble and admirable reputation.

And if this Knight doesn’t get his way? He’ll throw a tantrum, reducing his public persona from that of a shining and exemplary Knight, to a spoiled five year old child laying on the floor, kicking and screaming. He’s also a “whiner”, and anyone subjected to this side of his personality for long will quickly grow tired of it.

Another thing you should know about this Knight is that he carries a grudge. If you’ve insulted him in some way, gone against his wishes, contradicted him, dared to say “no” to this Knight; he won’t forget, and it will be only a matter of time until he can think of a way to taste revenge.

The Light Side ~

At his best, the Knight of pentacles is stable and dependable, responsible and kind, committed, loyal, friendly, sociable, the one individual you would always be happy to have on your team. He’s often found in professions that accentuate and highlight all of these qualities.

This Knight is the golden child, the person that everyone assumes will be successful at whatever he takes on in life. And this is usually true, as long as he stays on his light side, or doesn’t run into circumstances beyond his control. As a child and adolescent, he often literally has the “golden glow” about him.

  • Knight/Swords ~ Aquarius… Air/Fire

Keywords ~ reckless, spontaneous, cruel, exuberant, enthusiastic, passionate, self-serving, intelligent, thoughtless, crude, prissy, over-whelming, persistent, paranoid, secretive

The Dark Side ~

At his darkest level, the Knight of swords doesn’t have an empathic bone in his body. He’s narcissistic, thinking only of himself, placing his own needs and desires above everyone else. It doesn’t help that he is reckless and impulsive, doing, saying, acting without thinking about the consequences.

He loves, but only on his terms. Everything is done on his terms. Everything is evaluated and graded on his terms. The world is a myopic place for this selfish and insensitive individual, and the ramifications of this can be great. He’s often an unhappy soul racing through life, cutting a wide swath with his sword, through other people’s hearts and dreams, destroying lives in the process, including his own.

You should know that this Knight is prone to bouts of dangerous jealousy, bursts of unrestrained anger, impulsive behavior that leads to terrible decisions and choices.

The Light Side ~

At his best, this Knight is the gallant and brave warrior who will face any foe to fight for the underdog, to protect the weak, to wreak havoc on the demons that bring chaos and destruction to the innocent. He is noble, and “the cause” is all important to him; the principle of the thing is worth sacrifice. There’s an element about this Knight that brings to mind the knights of Arthur’s round-table, or the gallantry of the Knights Templar.

He loves fiercely and would fight to the death to protect the object of his love and the bond itself. He is loyal to a fault, and will defend a friend or a cause with robust intensity.

  • Knight/Wands ~ Leo… Fire/Fire

Keywords ~ impetuous, domineering, anti-social, dashing, unpredictable, mentally unbalanced, destructive, active, hard-working, reckless, speedy, morose, over-whelming, contemplative, distant, proud

The Dark Side ~

This Knight’s dark and brooding moods will dominate his life. He’s passionate about so many things, yet he will find himself at a loss as how to communicate these passions to another human being. He often feels trapped in his world, in his mind, leading to feelings of isolation and depression. This Knight himself is the most pronounced victim of his dark side. He internalizes the demons that haunt him, not speaking of them, but living silently with them. As energetic and enthusiastic as he is about some things in the world, as robust and strong as he may appear, this Knight is actually very fragile, and his existence may often depend on someone else's diligence.

He can be obstinately proud and outspoken, very strongly opinionated. This Knight finds open affection to be an aversion, something that makes him uncomfortable. He prefers to maintain a physical space around himself that is not invaded by someone else's touch. He’s often unusually sensitive to sound, or large groups of people, and will avoid these things, making this Knight the ultimate loner.

You should know that this Knight, of all the court cards, is most likely to harm himself when he is in one of his dark phases.

The Light Side ~

The Knight of wands is proud and independent, private and dignified. He likes his world to run like a well oiled machine, and he manages to neatly cubbyhole various aspects of his hobbies and activities, as well as family and friends.

He tends to be a solitary soul, and even if he does wind up in a relationship, his partner will be keenly aware of this, as a large part of his activities and interests will only require himself. When enthusiasm touches him, his expression of it is often sweet and awkward. As rare as it may be, when the need to reach out to someone hits this Knight, the contact will be intense and swift.

  • Knight/Cups ~ Scorpio… Water/Fire

Keywords ~ loyal, endearing, sexual, promiscuous, romantic, sensitive, emotional, unreasonable, cloying, anxious, petulant, intuitive, conniving, fragile, creative, introspective, shady, borderline

The Dark Side ~

The immature narcissist… this pretty well sums up the Knight of cups. But never fear, he’ll get better at it as he gets older. At his worst, this Knight is every young woman (or man’s) nightmare. The honey he uses to draw in his prey, er… partner, is a magnetic charm that’s truly irresistible. Unfortunately, this Knight is usually good looking, and even when he’s average, he can somehow produce the illusion of attractiveness. It’s a strange gift.

He chooses to be totally unaware of the emotional trauma his self-centered selfish behavior causes, and so will leave a trail of broken hearts and disillusioned souls in his wake.

He is sneaky, sly, totally bereft of morals, a sexual predator, using people for all those things he needs and believes that someone else must provide. He will use, and use, and use, until the victim he has attached to has run dry… of emotions, feelings, money, whatever; and he will quickly move on to the next target. The Knight of cups at his darkest, is a nightmare you want to avoid.

The Light Side ~

A gallant and noble Knight in shining armor… this is the Knight of cups at his best. He is everything anyone would want in a loving partner. He’s giving, loyal, generous, caring. He aims to please his mate on all levels, and you will find him to be one of the most unselfish individuals you’ll ever meet. The Knight of cups at his best is the anti-thesis of this Knight at his worst.

He can be easily hurt or disillusioned because he tends to have very high standards and ideals, and he assumes that most of the people he comes in contact with shares these traits. This Knight can be very naive and easily shattered by the dark truths in the world. You’ll find him very idealistic and sometimes not very realistic as he journeys through life. This makes him emotionally fragile and prone to mental anguish you often see with empaths and the super-sensitive.


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