Monday, December 28, 2020
In an ideal world, breaking up with someone would be clean cut and hassle-free. People would admit and accept they're not compatible, then move on with their lives. In reality however, being human means that splitting up is often a lot more complicated. We have separations that are a little too friendly, ones that are highly contentious, and some which are downright confusing, simply because we’re actually not very sure what happened. If any of these scenarios sound familiar, here’s some advice on how to balance a past lover with your new one.
- “…he’s one of my best friends.”
As wonderful and new age as it may seem to you, no one entering into a relationship wants to hear their new partner uttering these words, or anything to this effect. It’s not that your new flame is necessarily hoping the breakup with your ex was a bitter one, it’s simply that it can be uncomfortable joining this particular club. The club being one where everyone has some intimate experience with you, whether sexual, mental, or emotional. Letting go of deep connections with an ex, if you choose to do so, can be empowering. You make way for a new person to become your best friend and you allow them to re-discover all the reasons, and more, why others have loved you.
- “…but I don’t mind if he talks to his ex.”
It’s very commendable to know you’ve chosen the right partner, whom you can trust with their own ex, but don’t be overly encouraging of their attachments to the past. You may be utterly confident about a relationship they could hypothetically have, but if they don’t want that freedom, then let it go. Don’t use it to try and balance the presence of your ex in your life. We’re not suggesting you totally cut people off here, but you must acknowledge when someone new deserves time that is uninterrupted by your previous lovers. In our opinion, dating an ex-collector is the most uninspiring type of threesome there is. No one wants to feel like they’re living in someone else’s shadow, or that they can’t get close enough because the vacant position is actually still half filled.
- “…I hate my ex, she was a complete @*@%@$^@.”
Hating your ex passionately can be just as damaging to a new relationship as still loving them. If you can’t forget the reason for your break up, the next best move is to heal from it. Walking around with a heart filled with anger, malice or regrets isn’t attractive and could potentially get in the way of new experiences with other people. Another tip is that no matter how positive the allusions may be, don’t compare the habits of your new love to those of your old. Don’t tell your new partner how much better, slimmer, more intelligent, or rational they are. Take them on the merits they present, not how they stack up against an ex.
- he’s the father of her kids, I have to put up with him.
It’s true, dating someone that has a good relationship with their co-parent is far easier than dating someone who’s constantly fighting or bickering with them. Having said this, there should still be limitations on the amount of influence ex-partners have over the two of you. As long as children are safe and cared for, the relationship you have with their parent and how you run your joint lives should have minimal input from anyone else. This includes how the household operates, how you manage your finances and your life as a family unit. If you’re the newcomer, don’t allow yourself to be dictated to, and if you’re the one with the interfering ex, put some clear boundaries in place.
Wednesday, December 23, 2020
Monday, December 21, 2020
Friday, December 18, 2020
- Current Self
- Theme of the Month
- Key Goal
- Obstacle to Overcome
- Major Accomplishment
- What to Avoid
- What to Embrace
- Where to Find Support
- Advice & Encouragement
Thursday, December 17, 2020
The cards you just viewed in the video:
5/pentacles; 6/swords/ (R); 5/cups (R)
This is such a sorry set of cards, I felt that we could use an expanded version of this reading to gain some clarity. So here we go...
Queen/pentacles; Ace/cups (R); The Fool
Your usual self-confidence in your financial situation and decisions will be wounded by this set-back; but someone close to you may be either oblivious to it, or they are aloof to it. Whichever way it is, you are the one who's going to be fretting and stressing over this series of events. It's hardly surprising that this new set of circumstances will put a strain on a relationship that may already be strained and even at a pivotal point right now. If you were wondering if there was an end in sight to the relationship, there is... now. This financial set-back is like the straw that broke the camel's back, just one more issue that you can't agree on.
Page/cups; 10/swords; 9/pentacles
This is a time where the veil thins, as they say, only this veil has to do with relationships and new connections. You will find that there's someone close to you just waiting to step up to the plate and be supportive of you, your circumstances, the trials and tribulations you're facing. This may be someone who stood beside you in the shadows for a very long time, and you had no idea that is them who would be there to help you pick up the pieces.
There's enough negativity that goes with financial setbacks without including a cold and unresponsive partner. It's time to pull the swords out of your back, and also to stop feeling sorry for yourself and the state of your relationship and life, and move forward on a more positive note. Enough is enough. When it's over, it's over. It just takes some people a while to see this.
Your life is set on a new course. There's a new journey to make. There are plans to set in place. Once you start moving forward on such an expansive level, there's no time to look back, or to wallow in regret. It's time to plan for a new future, and this time, learn from your mistakes so that you don't repeat them.
Friday, December 11, 2020
Thursday, December 10, 2020
Wednesday, December 9, 2020
Tuesday, December 8, 2020
I’m still blown away by the support I’m seeing for The Essential Guide to WICCA for Beginners! Reading through these reviews every once in a while feels amazing and reminds me why I’m so happy to be a published author. Here’s one of my favorites so far…
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Saturday, December 5, 2020
Thursday, December 3, 2020
Whoa! I just noticed that The Essential Guide to WICCA for Beginners already has a number of reviews coming in and a five star rating on Amazon! Thank you so much to everyone who has taken the time to leave their honest feedback—it’s amazing to see how people are reacting to this project that I worked so hard on.
If you haven’t had a chance to leave a review yet, please take a couple minutes to head over to the Amazon page and leave your thoughts. You can do that at this link: https://amzn.to/2FIOU1f
Tuesday, December 1, 2020
The reading starts at time stamp 1:26. You'll also hear my phone ring at 14:14, and you may recognize it because it's the same melody that I use in some of my tarot videos. I also managed to knock the camera off it's stand at one point, so there's quite a bit of editing that had to be done on this episode. But it's all good.
Finances and material concerns seem to be the main focus today, both for the individual as well as a couple. There's a lot of snarky bickering and disagreement within a family, as well as misplaced advice and judgey energy for a couple.
Desert Readings are created by Amythyst Raine proprietor of The Tarot Parlour... http://tarotreadingswithamythystraine.blogspot.com
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