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Showing posts with label psychology. Show all posts
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Wednesday, June 24, 2026

I'm Back! ~ At least for a while

 
Some of you might have noticed that I've taken a break from the internet and social media.  It was a much needed break, but I think I'm ready to stick my toe in the water once again.  During this lull, I have deleted some Facebook pages and deactivated some social media sites.  However, during this break, I've also been creating new pages at Facebook, starting over with a clean slate, for three new pages with decidedly very pointed topics.

Here they are, with Links:

Crystal Clear...
because blogging is cheaper than therapy


https://www.facebook.com/crystalclear1957/

I embrace arm-chair psychology in all of its mundane glory.  You'll find topics at this page, everything from "The Psychology of Women Attracted to Serial Killers", to "The Psychology of People Who Pretend to Like You".  Some of these posts are inspired by personal experiences and the desire for clarity, and some of these posts are inspired by a video I've watched, an article I've read, or a dream that inspired me to ask questions.

Sources for each post are listed at the bottom of each post, and as you can see, a lot of research and time and thought has gone into "Crystal Clear".

My Tarot Journal...
Soulful Meditations


https://www.facebook.com/mytarotjournal/

I post short and impromptu readings at this page.  Sometimes these readings are meant for me and I share them because I believe there's someone out there who will share a connection with the same topic; and sometimes I am inspired by Spirit to post a reading that I know is for someone specifically, directly.  When I receive this kind of inspiration, I don't question it, I just do it.

I also post videos on supernatural and paranormal topics, as well as blog posts inspired by witchy inspiration, as well as cryptoid zoology, myths, and legends. To me, creepy is fascinating.

BOOKS by Amythyst Raine...


https://www.facebook.com/BOOKSbyAmythystRaine/

I've been writing books now for sixteen years, with a total of 11 publications, one a best seller, which surprised me as much as it must have some of my associates.  Posts at this page are not just filled with endless boring links, but are filled to the brim with generous excerpts from the books themselves, as well as inspired blog posts on many of the topics found in my books.

Be sure to click on the "see more" link in each post intro, you won't be disappointed.




Just a heads up about my Facebook page Crystal Clear... 

There is a featured post on this Facebook page that contains the titles of all the topics posted here along with a link to that post.  What you see here is the number of posts, with links, that are there on this day that I am creating this blog post.  

I won't be updating the posts and links on this blog post, but I definitely will keep this updated on the featured post at the Facebook page Crystal Clear.  I want to make it as easy as possible for you to find the topics that interest you most, or the topic that is affecting your life at the moment.

As of this date, 06-24-26, you'll find these topics at Crystal Clear...
There will be more to come, much more.


32. The Top Ten Personality Disorders
31. Psychology of the Optimist

30. The Psychology of Crabby People


29. Psychology of the silent treatment

28. The psychology of men who
collect women friends
27. The psychology of women attracted
to serial killers

26. Psychology of the introvert

25. The psychology of people who
take back their ex

24. The psychology of people who
pretend to like you

23. Psychology of the black sheep

22. Dealing with people who don't like you

21. Psychology of the female bully

20. The psychology of people who mumble
nasty things just loud enough to be heard

19. The psychology of people who tell you
how to talk, how to reply

18. The psychology of stubborn people

17. The psychology of gaslighting

16. Psychology of the over-achiever

15. The psychology of narcissists

14. Relationships: 4 situations
that are considered cheating

13. Psychology of abandonment issues


12. Psychology of the control freak
11. Psychology of the mistress

10. Psychology of the golden child

9. Psychology of mothers who abandon
their adult children

8. Psychology of the habitual cheater

7. Psychology of the nasty mother-in-law

6. The dark triad

5. A clear picture

4. The time loop theory and deja vu

3. Psychology of women who
seek independence

2. The psychology of lying

1. Spiritual psychosis and religious hysteria

Regards, Crystal Clear


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Sunday, December 21, 2025

Armchair Psychology ~ The Dark Triad

 

The "Dark Triad" in psychology refers to a cluster of three distinct but overlapping personality traits:

Narcissism (grandiosity, entitlement)
Machiavellianism (manipulation, cunning)
Psychopathy (lack of empathy, impulsivity, antisocial behavior). 
People high in these traits are often charming but self-serving, predatory, and willing to exploit or harm others for personal gain, exhibiting exploitative, callous, and unethical behavior.

The Three Traits
    Narcissism:
    Characterized by inflated self-esteem, entitlement, a need for admiration, and superficial charm, but also a fragile ego.
    Machiavellianism:
    A manipulative and exploitative mindset, cynical view of others, and focus on self-interest, using others as tools.
Psychopathy:
Marked by impulsivity, thrill-seeking, lack of empathy, remorse, and enduring antisocial tendencies.

Common Behaviors

Manipulation & Deception:
Skilled at charming and deceiving others to get what they want.

Self-Centeredness:
Focus on personal gain (status, power, pleasure) at others' expense.

Lack of Empathy:
Indifference or callousness toward the suffering of others.

Exploitative Relationships:
Viewing people as objects or status symbols, leading to infidelity and shallow connections.

Arrogance & Grandiosity:
Exaggerating successes and presenting an image of superiority.
Why They Matter

These traits predict predatory behavior, interpersonal exploitation, and callousness, even without a clinical diagnosis.

They are associated with a higher risk of criminal behavior and poor relationship outcomes.




As we've stated above, but we'll say it again... The Dark Triad consists of three overlapping negative personality traits: Narcissism (grandiosity, entitlement); Machiavellianism (manipulation, cynicism); and Psychopathy (lack of empathy, impulsivity). 

While distinct, they often co-occur, describing people prone to callous, self-centered, and exploitative behaviors, with researchers sometimes adding Sadism (enjoying cruelty) to form the "Dark Tetrad".

Narcissism is about self-focus and grandiosity; Machiavellianism is about cunning exploitation; and Psychopathy is about emotional detachment and impulsivity.  While distinct, they share core features like low agreeableness, exploitativeness, and callousness, leading to their grouping.

The Additional Trait 

Sadism: 
The enjoyment of inflicting pain or cruelty on others, sometimes added to create the "Dark Tetrad".


Understanding these traits helps recognize harmful patterns in interpersonal and professional settings, as individuals high in these traits often cause distress and dysfunction.


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Tuesday, July 30, 2024

Psychology ~ The Dark Triads

 

So, we have Narcissism, Machiavellianism, and Psychopathy, each one an individual snag in the mental makeup of successful happy human beings. But when you put all three of these aspects together under one roof, so to speak, it makes for a daunting mental landscape.




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Thursday, May 30, 2024

The Narcissist & Their Distinctive Eyebrows ~ a study

 

So, it would appear that there are several physical factors that may give unsuspecting individuals out there a heads up when they are being targeted, contacted, or love-bombed by a new person, and this unusual red flag that will out a narcissist is their very dramatic, very distinctive, often highly groomed eyebrows.  No kidding.  The study indicated that this information holds true for BOTH male and female narcissists.

Following are excerpts on this fascinating topic, as well as related topics, along with links to complete articles for your reading experience, and acknowledgement of authors where this information is available.

Read on.  And pay attention to those eyebrows.

Who knew??




Because grandiose narcissists strongly desire recognition and admiration, they seek to maintain distinct eyebrows to facilitate others' ability to notice, recognize and remember them, thereby increasing their likability and reinforcing their overly positive self-views... the study reads. [1]

Can you spot a narcissist by their eyebrows? It's complicated.

The study asked people to take the Narcissistic Personality Inventory, a self-assessment that measures traits of narcissism. Then, participants were asked to identify which of these people were more narcissistic, based solely on their facial features.

What the study found was that the distinctiveness of one's eyebrows played a critical role in others being able to accurately identify them as more narcissistic.

[note: the article did to go on and caution that not everyone with distinctive, bushy, or overly groomed eyebrows is a narcissist, but I did find it amazing, as did the people running the study, that these types of eyebrows showed up so consistently in narcissistic individuals.]

Research reveals you may be able to spot a narcissist through the eyebrows. A series of studies by Miranda Giacomin and Nicholas Rule, “Eyebrows Cue Grandiose Narcissism” (2018),  demonstrated how eyebrows accurately convey grandiose narcissism. The authors describe grandiose narcissism as: the tendency to be egotistical, self‐focused, and vain. They identify it as a common dark personality trait, whereby an individual exhibits positive qualities such as extraversion and self‐confidence, but also negative traits such as vanity, selfishness, egotism, and a sense of entitlement. [2]

Giacomin and Rule note that even though narcissists “may not naturally be more attractive than non‐narcissists, narcissism seems to carry an enduring physical signature in the face that goes beyond adornment.” Their research sought to find out what that was. They explain that finding facial features associated with narcissistic traits can help understand how they manipulate their appearance to gain notoriety, status, or recognition. And being able to recognize such features will help people avoid the often negative consequences of becoming involved with them.

Giacomin and Rule note that eyebrows play a significant role in facial recognition, impacting perception even more than the eyes. They cite previous research showing that people recognize celebrities without their eyes, but not without their eyebrows. They suggest that because narcissists crave recognition and admiration, perhaps they cultivate distinctive eyebrows in order to be noticed, recognized, and remembered.

They also note that given a narcissist's focus on cultivating an attractive appearance, eyebrow grooming, from plucking, to waxing, to tattooing, enhances this goal. They note that because narcissists often aggressively pursue potential sexual partners, their “grandiose eyebrows” could signal sexual prowess.

Just the eyebrows are enough to reveal narcissistic tendencies -- no other facial feature is predictive of the trait. People can identify narcissists just from looking at their faces, psychologists have discovered. In fact, the eyebrows alone can reveal narcissistic traits in people, research reveals. [3]

Grandiose narcissists have thicker and denser eyebrows and people automatically pick up on this cue. 

It turns out that maintaining distinctively thick and well-groomed eyebrows is a trait synonymous with those who rate highly on the scale of grandiose narcissism, a form of narcissism often with a flamboyant, assertive, and interpersonally dominant style. [4]

Narcissists may maintain distinct, thick, and dense brows to enhance recognition, which they are motivated to attain.

This may also facilitate a desire to be remembered and liked by others, which reinforces positive views they have of themselves.

In addition to bushy brows, other scientifically-backed indicators of narcissism include hypersensitivity, obsessively talking about oneself and a severe lack of empathy.
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Sunday, May 19, 2024

Cliques ~ You will never escape them

 

"A Clique is a small and exclusive group of people that share similar values and purposely exclude others that they feel don't meet their standards. This phenomenon is often seen in high schools where teenagers will form these close associations based on interests, activities, social position, etc." -- and let's not forget popularity.

Signs of a Clique:
  • Consists of an exclusive group of people
  • Focus on status, popularity, or climbing the social ladder
  • Ostracize other people
  • Use their power to hurt or humiliate others
  • Insult people by trying to "improve" them
  • Restrict people in the group from socializing with others
  • Experience lots of pressures or rules as a member of the group
  • Gossips or spreads rumors
  • Have members who are bossy or demanding

But the truth is, you will never escape from the world of cliques, never.  I thought that this eccentric novelty would disappear once life raced past the halls of junior high and high school; but no, this strange phenomenon will follow you to college and on into the workplace.  It has also surprisingly followed me into the world of publishing, as well as the world of tarot.  Everywhere -- everywhere -- you will find a group of ramshackle people drawing mysterious boundaries, forming unnamed clubs, clinging to each other like Neanderthals in the midst of a dangerous stone age world.

Following are some questions I had about the phenomenon of cliques, as well as some answers.  You will find the sources for this information listed at the bottom of this blog post, with links to the complete articles for your reading experience, as well as acknowledgment to the authors when this info is available. 

Grab a cup of coffee (or something stronger), sit back, and let's explore the frickin' world of cliques.  And note that, so often, the focus of this information may be on adolescents, but we all know that this phenomenon applies to adults of every age as well, perhaps some would label it "arrested development".




Why do people stay in clicks? [1]

For some [people], being popular or cool is most important, and cliques give them a place where they can get this social status. Other [people] want to join because they don't want to feel left out. 

Cliques give [people] who like to take control a chance to be in charge (for good or bad).  They’re usually tightly controlled by leaders who decide who’s "in" and who’s "out." For [people] who feel more comfortable following, cliques offer a place where rules are clearly defined.

Why should you avoid cliques? [2]

Because cliques promote judgmental and bullying behaviors, members don't feel safe revealing their own feelings. The beliefs of the clique come before the beliefs of each individual member.

Some ways of identifying a clique:
  • Cliques usually have one or two “leaders” who decide who can join the in-group.
  • Cliques focus on maintaining their popularity or status. They accomplish this by excluding, ostracizing, and leaving out others on purpose.
  • Cliques generally don’t socialize outside of their group. It’s rare that they will allow an outsider into the group.
  • Members of a clique tend to be more concerned with keeping a good relationship within the clique, rather than making friends outside of the clique.
  • As a result, members of a clique are pressured to conform to certain standards to be part of the group. Individuality is not encouraged or rewarded.
  • Cliques are mean, even to members within the cliques. This can include giving unwanted backhanded advice or compliments, dictating specific behaviors and choices, and giving rules for how to act outside of the clique.
  • Cliques may pressure their members to make poor choices, or to follow along on things they don’t actually want to do.
How to break into an adult clique: [3]
  • Don't take it personally if you are not included
  • Get to know one person at a time
  • Ask, don't hint to make friends as an adult
  • Give finding friends as an adult time
  • Consider your motivation

Why are cliques unhealthy? [4]

If someone in the group does stray from the group, they are quickly ostracized. "When cliques become exclusionary, it can quickly turn into bullying," says Dr. Patel-Dunn. "Cliques can be cruel to the people they are not including."

What are the negative effects of cliques in the workplace? [5]

Workplace cliques can harm employee morale and lead to bullying. A company's success depends on teamwork, but cliques promote “otherness.” Employees who aren't in the group may feel like they're less valued.

When cliques occur between management and employees, outsiders can begin to feel disinterested in their work, believing that only those within the clique receive positive feedback, recognition or promotions. When employees feel that the quality of their work doesn't matter due to favoritism, it can cause diminished employee engagement and productivity.

Cliques in the publishing world: [6]

The clique is one of the most alluring and deceptive shortcuts of all. In the writing world, cliques are formed by groups of creators and their supporters – editors, publishers, reviewers and general fans. Creators crave recognition, and the clique offers it. Members of the clique support each other’s work, offering congratulations (and expecting them) when new work is published.

The downside is easy to observe. Writers who join a clique get stuck in it, often for the rest of their career. The clique, by its nature, enforces inward looking behaviour. It will have a “house style” that writers will need to match, but the style is rarely if ever engaging to readers who aren’t part of the clique. Working your way into the clique means training your creativity on a very narrow set of criteria, to impress a very small number of people, who are ultimately only ever talking to each other.

The clique mind set: [7]

Cliques are really little tribes, and we form them to make ourselves feel comfortable and strengthen or protect our position; often all they do is reinforce our own beliefs and biases.

What is the psychology behind cliques in adulthood? 

It feels social to form cliques and we are social beings, so they give us common ground for having fun and an immediate understanding, but cliques also form because it is an easy way of feeling powerful. People (wrongfully) believe that just because the group believes something, this makes them right.



Sources:

[1] Understanding Cliques
Jessica Pierce PHD

[2] Six Golden Rules for Dealing with Cliques

[3] How to Break Into an Adult Clique
Dr. Julie Hanks

[4] How to Tell the Difference Between Cliques and Friends
Sherry Gordon

[5] How to Handle Cliques at Work

[6] Avoid Cliques at All Costs, They are a Shortcut to Creative Death
Damien Walter

[7] Cliques Mindset & Creativity
Shekhar Varma


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Saturday, May 11, 2024

Sulking

 

Is sulking manipulative?

Sulking is a devious way of manipulating someone's emotions. The sulker will invariably deny they are sulking. That's a given. After all, being frank and open about your sulking wouldn't work.

Is sulking controlling behavior?

Whether the tendency to sulk comes from immaturity or a need for control, sulking is a form of manipulation. If you give in, the problem will continue or grow worse. In order to deal with the problem, you need to assess their behaviour, keep from giving in to their sulking, and go about your daily routine.

Is sulking a personality disorder?

Petulant Borderline Personality Disorder

People with this type of borderline personality disorder may appear angry one moment and sulky or sad the next. They swing unpredictably between emotions. They may also feel unloved or unworthy. This can lead to an unhealthy desire for control and relationship challenges.

How do you deal with someone who is sulking?

In order to deal with a sulking partner, assess their behaviour and keep from giving in to their sulking. Encourage them to communicate openly, remembering that their behaviour is not your fault.

Is sulking passive aggressive?

Sulking, backhanded compliments, procrastination, withdrawal, and refusal to communicate are all passive-aggressive behaviors. When the other person begins acting in such a way, try to keep your anger in check. Instead, point out the other person's feelings in a way that is non-judgmental, yet factual.

Why is sulking bad?

Psychologists have mentioned that sulking in its extreme forms can even morph into a personality disorder because sufferers and constant sulkers are usually unable to articulate their feelings and leave them all pent-up inside themselves.

How do you recognize sulking?

A sulky or sullen person won't smile or engage through eye contact – they will often remain silent and not say a word even when the people around them might be sharing jokes and laughter.

When an adult sulks?

Sulking often results from past abuse. Or from being raised in a family where one was not allowed to express needs or strong emotions. But wherever it came from, repeatedly sulking as an adult is a deliberate choice. Your partner might say they have no control over their feelings, but they do.

Is sulking normal?

Sulking isn't healthy or normal – it's passive-aggressive, and that's not good. Some people are chronic sulkers. This has often developed in their childhoods. They've made their sulking into an art form that can continue for days or even weeks at a time.

Is sulking a form of silent treatment?

When one or both partners sulk, pout, or refuse to talk, they are exerting a cruel type of power in the relationship that not only shuts out their partner but also communicates that they do not care enough to try to communicate or collaborate.

The dark side of sulking...

Sulking is generally thought of as something which children do rather than adults, but it is a major blight on many adult lives. "It is a little known fact that sulking can take on a degree of severity where it becomes a clinical phenomenon, a personality disorder,'' says psychotherapist and author Adam Edward Jukes. A sulk is a reaction to feelings of being rejected where, instead of getting openly angry or talking about the problem, the sulker retaliates with moody silences or monosyllabic replies designed as a punishment. It is closely associated with envy and a desire to destroy the contentment of the other person.




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Thursday, January 25, 2024

The Narcissist's New Supply (aka new person) Will Always FAIL

 

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Why the new relationship is Doomed...



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The Narcissist's New Supply (aka new person) ~ what really happens to them

 

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Friday, December 8, 2023

The Narcissist ~ Have they found happiness with the new supply?

 

No, they haven't.  You were the new supply when they left their last partner, a partner they talked negatively about, a partner they wanted you to think was a very bad person.  When they go on to a new supply, they will do the same thing to you.  And the new supply after that, and the new supply after that, and...

A narcissist is never happy and content where they are, they are always looking for something better.  They are easily infatuated, easily bored, easily disillusioned, and they are never content.

Please be sure to check out Paula's Narc Con YouTube Channel, not only will you learn a lot, you'll find her soft Irish accent soothing and her beautiful home charming and peaceful.





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Friday, December 1, 2023

The Narcissist ~ 6 things that will trigger them

 

Be sure to check out Clarice's channel at YouTube...




Six things that will make a narcissist angry...

  • Being challenged or criticized
  • Being rejected
  • Being held accountable
  • Being made fun of 
  • Being told the truth
  • Being overlooked

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Tuesday, November 28, 2023

The Narcissist ~ How they end relationships

 

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Monday, November 20, 2023

The Narcissist ~ recognizing a narcissist on the first date

 

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Friday, November 17, 2023

The Narcissist ~ "Hoovering", sucking an ex-partner back into their life

 

Please be sure to check out Paula's Narc Con YouTube Channel, not only will you learn a lot, you'll find her soft Irish accent soothing and her beautiful home charming and peaceful.



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Thursday, November 16, 2023

The Narcissist ~ "Devalues" their New Supply

 

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Wednesday, November 15, 2023

The Narcissist and "Triangulation"

 

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Saturday, February 26, 2022

Mid-Life Crisis ~ the signs and symptoms

 
What is this great transition?  Life is a series of transitions, if you really think about it:  from single to married; from student to employee; from physically active to more sedentary; from employed to retired; from married to divorced, from parent to grandparent; and finally, somewhere along the way... from middle-aged to elderly.

Mid-life crisis is the stuff of movies and novels and talk show circumspection.  It is stereotypically a tumultuous time of great change, rash decisions, and personal psychological angst.  And not only is the victim of this phenomena affected, but often the people around them catch the fallout.

So, how do you know if the unease and discontent you are feeling is a mid-life crisis?  Below are some tips to help you figure that out, and to read this article, a nice long juicy article, in its entirety, be sure to follow the link below.  You'll find a great deal of advice on how to handle a mid-life crisis if you should find yourself in the trenches.

https://lonerwolf.com/midlife-crisis/



  • What is a Midlife Crisis?

A midlife crisis is a period of life, usually occurring between the ages of 45 to 65, in which a person feels fundamentally dissatisfied with their life and goes in search of more meaning and happiness. Coined by psychologist Elliot Jacque in the 1960s, the midlife crisis is fairly common, particularly in the western world.



  • 12 Signs and Symptoms of the Midlife Crisis


Fears of mortality – As your body begins to show signs of wear and tear, you realize that you ain’t a ‘spring chicken’ any longer. When you were a 20-something you were able to pretend that life was endless, but now you can’t. This increasing realization may trigger the next symptom:

Asking deep questions about your life – You begin to ask questions that you perhaps avoided when you were younger such as, “What is the meaning of life?” “Is there life after death?” “What is my destiny or soul purpose?” “Is there more to life than just making money and running a family?”

Feeling stuck and stagnant – You feel almost a sense of claustrophobia or being “shut in a box” that is hard to logically understand. Your ego has become overly solidified, hardened, stuck in its ways, and stranded in routines.

You long for adventure – You want to break free, do something new, or be something new – anything to avoid that dreaded feeling of being static.

Feeling depressed and anxious – You struggle to feel the motivation to do anything. Apathy fills you. Identifying what exactly is “wrong” with you or life becomes a preoccupation of yours. You don’t know what will bring you that sense of joy or being fulfilled anymore.

Sense of disillusionment – As you reflect back on your life so far, you realize that nothing you’ve done has ultimately brought you the long-lasting peace, happiness, or fulfillment you’ve been searching for.

You don’t know what your purpose is – What is your destiny in this life? Why are you here on earth? What’s the point? These are the types of questions that enter your mind.

Time feels more precious – As you edge closer to your later years, you start to see time differently. You might feel remorse looking back on pursuits that now feel hollow. You’ll want to start spending your time doing activities and spending time with people that feel valuable.

You’ll rethink your relationships – As time becomes more precious, you’ll think carefully about your close relationships. Do they bring you joy? Is there still a spark of love there? Do the significant others in your life fulfill your mental, emotional, or spiritual needs?

You feel the impulse to do something, anything! – With the fears of wasting your life knowing that it’s now “half over,” you want to do something to get yourself out of that rut, out of the uncomfortable feelings you’re having. Perhaps you decide to purchase an expensive car, sell your house, or move to another country. Some of that stuckness might disappear, but a deeper craving still remains.

Psychosomatic illness emerges – With all the stress you’re experiencing due to undergoing a crisis, you might experience strange illnesses that have no clear biological cause, but are instead triggered by your mental state. Examples of these psychosomatic illnesses include chronic fatigue, chronic pain, insomnia, headaches and migraines, and gastrointestinal issues.

Your values start to shift or become more dominant – If you spent most of your life pursuing success, financial stability, or status, you’ll find these values dissolving as you reflect on how they never brought you what you truly wanted. If you value family, love, connection, and authentic living, these values will become more dominant, particularly if you never got a chance to fully immerse yourself in them.
 

  • Midlife Crisis For a Man vs. Midlife Crisis For a Woman


Midlife crisis for men often manifests in the following ways:

1. Loss of sex drive (sometimes the opposite)

2. Toxic comparison with other men regarding status, success, happiness

3. Increase in impulsive decision making due to feeling trapped

4. Feelings of numbness


Midlife crisis for women often manifests in the following ways:

1. Becoming overly preoccupied with one’s looks or totally giving up and not caring

2. Feelings of increased anxiety

3. Inner emptiness (often due to kids leaving)

4. Identity crisis or “who am I now?”



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Wednesday, December 15, 2021

"Limerence" ~ an obsession

 
"Limerence"... is a romantic obsession with an individual you are not with. This is often an Ex.  But it could also be a stranger, a casual acquaintance, or even a celebrity.

*Note: when an individual has been separated from an Ex for a period of time, their brain starts to remember only the "good" things about being with them, burying all the problems and flaws, this is called the "Halo-effect". 

Can you be "just friends" with someone you are experiencing limerence with? No... to recover from the obsession, you have to go No Contact.





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Saturday, February 27, 2021

Stop Trying to Fit in ~ And Start Embracing Your True Self

 

Don’t change so people will like you;
be yourself and the right people will love you.




  • I’ve spent my life trying to fit in. I’ve always wanted to please people, to make my parents proud, and to receive approval from anyone and everyone—my family, friends, partners, bosses, and teachers.

So without even realizing it I would change myself, my desires, and sometimes even my opinions to fit into whatever mold was required at the time...

  • This leads to a life of sacrificing ourselves to please others, living their dreams at the expense of our own.

I found the more I listened to, abided by, and fuelled these stereotypes, the more I was defined by them...

  • To find true happiness we must be true to ourselves, live our own dreams, and be proud of what makes us unique instead of feeling the pressure to follow the crowd.

It’s easier said than done, I know...

  • When we are comfortable in our own skin, we are not fighting against or with anyone, as we’ve discovered our own true nature and are living in accordance with it. We are courageous enough to live our own truth.

Simply be, as you are...

  • The ancient meaning of the word courage is “tell the story of who you are with your whole heart.”

It is all about being true to yourself...



To read this article in its entirety,
click  HERE





SOURCE

tinybuddah.com



ABOUT


Jess Stuart

After a successful career in the corporate HR world Jess decided to follow her passion in Health and Wellness as a coach, speaker, and author. A qualified yoga instructor who has trained in Buddhist meditation and mindfulness, living and working in many countries Jess draws her life experience into her work to share the principles of health and happiness.



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