From The Witch's Desk ~ Spilling the Tea

 

You lied one too many times

You lied one too many times, and now you're trapped by the languid drooling untruths of your tongue.

There is someone who knows the truth.  They know the truth, and this knowledge gives them a weapon that will affect your work place, as well as wreak havoc on all the fun things you enjoy, though this we do see is where the problem began.

What do you do now?...

Stay frozen in place, until hopefully everything dies down, and the voice of truth won't have such an impact -- or so you think.

Or do you deny, deny, deny, and hope for the best?

The shameful thing, the worst thing about this scenario, is that one innocent naive individual who still thinks the world is rosy and bright and everything is well.

They didn't think thay had to pay attention to life's movement around them, they didn't have to question your actions or your explanations, because they trusted you to keep their world and yours on level ground, unshakable, and safe.

So, what do you do now?

Spilling the Tea

From The Witch's Desk ~ Spilling the Tea

 

Stepping up to the plate

You didn't think this one simple innocent individual, or this one obvious (to you) choice, could throw such a wrench in your relationship, your marriage.  But there it is.  Truth is, you didn't even do anything wrong.  You were just being responsible, making decisions that need to be made, stepping up to the plate, as they say, taking care of business, taking care of someone who can't take care of themselves.  

But your partner didn't see it that way, did they?  And this surprised you, didn't it, stunned you actually.

Suddenly the quaint idea of "we're in life together", "what affects you, affects me", "we'll handle life's problems side by side"... it all kind of fizzled into empty cliques, didn't it?

You expected your partner to be as willing to step up to the plate as you are, but this didn't turn out to be the case, did it.

Now what?

You've been through all the arguments together and experienced the nasty words thrown around trying to work this out; you've been through all the wishful thinking you could manifest; and you've worried that your relationship may not be strong enough to survive this, or you might not be strong enough to stick to your decisions.

Stepping up to the plate isn't always easy for the responsiblie partner.  Being a partner to someone who suddenly finds themselves stepping up to a very unexpected and not particularly pleasant responsibility isn't easy either.  Neither one of you saw this coming, to be honest, and you both had very different reactions to it.

Now what?

Someone's got to draw the line somewhere -- both of you, actually -- and you'll find that your boundaries are going to be very different. You have to acknowledge that there are "deal breakers" for relationships and marriages, and you may have just run into one. You might be finding yourself having to choose between this new responsibility and your relationship, literally. You might find yourself caught in a stagnant stalemate, at least for a while. And you most definitely will find yourself at a crossroads, and ultimately, you are the one who will have to make that final decision.

You can do it.  Do you know how I know this?... You already stepped up to the plate.

Spilling the Tea

From The Witch's Desk ~ Spilling the Tea

 

Affairs of the Heart

To the mistress...

She's watching in calculated silence, the two of you.  She's not done with him, no siree, though he might think she is.  The decisions that were made, the division of assets, the landing of the money, where it all went, who benefited, who was left out -- it's not over, it never is.

She's no longer working alone, by the way, she found a partner almost as hedonistic and calculating as she is.  But he prefers to stay in the background, working in the shadows, so to speak.  You should just know that if she wins, he wins, so he is pretty invested.

Maybe you should think twice about where this is going -- or where this all started, and was it really a good idea?  Maybe not, in hindsight, these sordid little tales rarely are.  It was rather shady, wouldn't you agree?... who made the first move, who told the first lie, who was the first to slip up, and wasn't it a war zone when the shit hit the fan.

No one can keep secrets forever.

To the wife...

The only way to lift the weight of this off your shoulders is to shine a light on those things that are best kept in the dark.  Not everyone will want to look, but it just takes one person with enough courage, the right person.  And, voila, the world will know and bells will toll.  You still won't be completely innocent, aka not at fault, but you might be able to successfully kid yourself... for a while.  It takes two you know, both for success and for failure.

It wasn't all bad.  It really wasn't.  And if you can throw just enough salt on the bitch to tarnish her new-mistress image, he might see her for what she actually is.  She's all smiles and aquiesence and unlimited sex right now, but we know this is a facade.  Remember, you two have a history together.  You've been through things, you experienced stuff.  You have memories, however warped some of them might be.  Hang on to that, because right now, that's about all you've got.  Some might say this is wishful thinking, and others might look at it as unabashed optimism.

Just remember, however this turns out, whatever your idea of "winning" might be...

He's done this once, and he will do it again.

Spilling the Tea

From The Witch's Desk ~ Spilling the Tea

 

Weathering the Storm

You played hard to get, you made him work for it, that's for sure, and he was more patient about it than most people would be.  He gave you way too much leeway if you ask me, and you did.  

But just as everything seems to fall into place, just as the festivities are planned and ready to proceed, there will be a wrench thrown into the middle of everything, a wrench made up of harmful, notorious words -- this means a shocking revelation; this could mean insults; this could mean that he does have a limit and you have pushed him to it.  

There is also the possibility that a third party is going to step forward, a third party that is looking out for him, and they're going to say to him, "What the hell do you think you're doing?"   And, gawds forbid, they're going to encourage him to stand up for himself; they'll encourage him to stop giving in to your every whim; they'll enourage him to rock the boat and not lose himself in a manipulative relationship.

A storm will follow, yes indeed, it certainly will, because this will all be a new experience for you, someone actually telling you "no".  Tantrums will no longer work, though they obviously did when you were a child, but those days are over.  You are going to have to weather the storm, lick your wounds, and hopefully come away wiser, with some of Life's Lessons to help you in the future.

It's what you're going to lose now, within this present scenario, which is the sad part. But you're so sure of yourself, so egotistical, so self-centered, you don't realize it yet...

Quite frankly, don't get so cocky so fast, you might have won the battle, as they say, but you have lost the war.  You don't think he'll ever leave, you don't think he has the courage to walk away, you think you can rule with an iron fist and he will never leave you.  This has always been your armor, your weapon, your certainty.

You would be wrong.

Spilling the Tea

From The Witch's Desk ~ Spilling the Tea

 

Finding the Key

It didn't work out because you tried too hard and put too much effort into manipulating the situation instead of just letting things happen naturally.  Sad, but true.

This is not your first rodeo with this outcome being the result.  You know this, you just don't want to admit it, or maybe you don't know any other way.  This is what makes it so frustrating for you.

Were your parents manipulative?  Did your mother manipulate your father?  Is this the dynamic you grew up with, and this is what you consider "normal", because this is what you've always seen?

Your defenses are just up like crazy.  It would be easier for someone to break into Fort Knox than get through to your emotional soft spots.  You've got those covered.  You do understand, don't you, that this is going to make it all but impossible to find what you're looking for, because you've already set yourself up to make it impossible.

But there's something else here as well, something buried so deep that even close friends would be shocked, people who mistakenly think they really know you.  They don't.  You have secrets.

Is this one of those deals where you've kept something hidden, or denied it so hard for so long, that you might not even remember it now?  Maybe, maybe not.  You'd have to see a professional therapist on this point, someone with all the right degrees on the wall to let you know how you're doing on the sanity scale.  

You'll have to find the key, and then find the courage to use it, to set things straight, to make things right, to have dominion over your worst fears, to have the freedom to take down those barriers.  This means you'll be taking chances, and this is what terrifies you.

Spilling the Tea

 

From The Witch's Desk ~ Psychic Journal: The Radio

(Psychic Journal, July 2010)

Know before you read this that clairaudience experienced outside of my head is a very rare thing for me.

First, the definition of clairaudience:

This is a person who will pick up a thought and hear it, either as a voice inside their head, or as an actual external voice. This person's mental or intellectual understanding is very important and they can make good leaders. We all know someone that we would say was a mental person, always having to understand mentally. They carefully think things through. If this person were to become enlightened they would have the ability to become a medium, someone who channels information from entities who have passed over, because their most heightened sensitivity is to hear.

The alarm had went off at about 5:30am. My husband has it set on the radio instead of the usual alarm buzzer, so we’re woken up by voices or music five mornings a week at the crack of dawn.

I opened my eyes and simultaneously saw my husband’s arm reaching to turn off the alarm as I heard my own voice speaking over the radio. I sat up and said to him, “Did you hear that? That was me!”

He looked a little puzzled, and I wondered why. He mumbled, “What?” I said, “That was my voice on the radio, didn’t you hear it?”

He had not. I couldn’t believe he didn’t hear it. It had been so clear, and it was shocking because I hadn’t expected to hear my own voice.

The next day, I received an email from the program manager of an internet radio network. He wanted to know if I wanted my own radio show.

(note: I declined his offer)

From The Witch's Desk ~ "The Scent of You"

 

July, 2009, John C. Fremont Days in our community, which means tents of vendors, open air food courts, shaved ice treats, and entertainment.

I had taken my girls to the park, and we were making the rounds, just heading over to the food court, when I suddenly stopped in my tracks. I caught a whiff of a scent, for the briefest second, a familiar scent, a very dear friend.

I raised my hands slightly to stop the girls, and I said, "I smell Lori." My 16-year-old daughter said, "That is weird, and if we run into her it will really be weird."

We made our way through the food court and couldn’t decide what we wanted. We were really waiting for the shaved ice cubicle to open, to tell you the truth. So we went around the outskirts of the park, cutting through, past the tent set up for entertainment, when we heard someone shouting ‘Hey!’

I turned around, and there was my friend, Lori, with her partner. My 16-year-old daughter murmured, "That is so weird!"

I think it is so wonderful.

What must it say about the kind of connection we have to people who touch our lives in a genuine way.

The Witch's Desk ~ Q&A

All questions are posted as received, No Editing (except to delete identities), as all questions are posted anonymously. These questions were originally posted at my blog, Magickal Connections.

• 1. Well I don’t really know how to cast a circle and there are some things about a money bottle I don’t understand and the mojo bag also help thank u

Note: I have to say that I get this type of message quite often, actually A LOT.  This is obviously a person who has not picked up a book to read or learn anything on the subjects in question.  Basically, they want someone to do everything for them, in essence, it's like they want me to "learn" for them, or just tell them everything they need to know.  Learning the old-fashioned way is too much work.

This is re-posted from my blog Magickal Connections, June 2014. I had the time and patience then to sit down and respond to messages like this.  I don't have either now.  If I received this message now, I would give them a link to my books, which contain all the information they would need for these topics.  I would tell them that they need to find the time to read, and study, and learn, and then, if they still have questions, ask them... Here's a link to My Books.  (Available in paperback or kindle)  Okay, I'm done ranting now... on with my reply:

Witch’s Bottles ~

Witches’ bottles are an old form of magick wherein the spell, in the form of personal effects, herbs, and a variety of objects, are deposited in a glass jar or bottle. The container is then sealed up with wax and used in a variety of ways, depending upon it’s purpose. Money bottles can be kept near the front door where they are visible and handy, and you can grab them and give them a shake from time to time to keep the energy moving towards manifestation. Witches’ bottles for protection might be buried on your property, as near the threshold of your front door as possible. A wild and woolly bottle, meant to kick some magickal butt or get rid of a pesky problem, will be buried as far away from your land as is physically possible and reasonable. A bottle meant to conjure love, well, I’d tuck that beneath the bed, where the energy will pool and puddle, perk and boil, till the damn bursts and love and passion bloom.

You can use any kind of bottle that has a mouth large enough to deposit some of the more unusual items you might have for your spell. This creation can be very unique.  Witches’ Bottles are easy spells to cast, fun to put together, and long potent lasting magick.

Circle Casting

You’ll find a circle casting ritual at my website by clicking HERE.

To cast most magick, you will want to create sacred space in which to work; space that is cleansed, consecrated, and reinforced against negative energy and entities. This space will hold and contain magickal energy as it builds, until you are ready to release it into the universe, sometimes with explosive abruptness. This space will give you the reassurance of protection, so that you can concentrate on your spell casting or ritual, knowing that you are safe– physically mentally, and spiritually– knowing that nothing will interfere with you or the energy within your circle. This space will provide a place of beauty and serenity, in which to invoke Deity.

Whether or not the boundaries of your magick circle are marked with physical objects…a ring of stones, a silver cord, bouquets of flowers, or candles; you most likely will feel the invisible energy of this circle as a shift in temperature, the sensation of being closed within a small space, a tingling sensation on the soles of your feet, or a slight change of pressure around your head or inner ear. Some people experience a physical sensation within the circle, and others do not. It may depend on an individual’s physical sensitivity to various energies. Even if you experience no sensations within the magick circle, know that this space, when properly cast, is as solid and real and sacred as the most intimidating cathedral, or the quaintest neighborhood church.

Mojo Bags

The ancient practice of combining spell ingredients for particular intentions in small bags and pouches is an ancient one, and a magick that has proved particularly powerful. Mojo bags can be carried in your purse or pocket, tucked beneath your pillow, worn from a cord or chain around your neck, tucked in an enemy’s personal space, or even dismantled and thrown to the wind…I bet you’ll know what to do.

I have a whole section in my book Natural Magick the Gray Witch Way devoted to mojo bags, including directions on making your own with correspondences for a number of intentions…"These enchanting magickal charms can be carried and integrated into your life in a variety of ways. Mojo bags to enhance your dreams or to prevent nightmares can be tucked beneath your pillow, releasing their magick and fragrance right under your nose each night. Mojo bags for prosperity can be carried in your purse, rubbing elbows with your wallet or checkbook, bringing you success and abundance in the financial world. Mojo bags for love and employment, for protection and hexing, can all be created to move energy along, to invoke spirits, to create change, and to shake up the mundane world in a million different magickal ways.”

• 2. Hello Amythyst this (Name Deleted) and you once did a reading for me and was about who thought at the time was my soul mate only to find out for my goddess Hecate my true soul mate is Gabriel and that the (Name Deleted) guy was just somebody I was sing to help. It turns out that I am still waiting for my true soul mate and I want him in my life and I feel alone and want somebody do love me too. I feeling confused with my life and want to know why my life. I want to know why I am never lucky with anything I do? I feel like I never get anywhere and I think more about helping other people but am to worried to help myself. I feel that if I try to make my life better that everything will not work out. I just want to be happy. I am not happy with the way my life is. Can you help me?

I see several questions within this question.

First, can I help you?…Basically, no. Up to a point, I can listen to you, I can encourage you, I can comfort you, I can advise you, I can do a reading for you, I can make suggestions; but in the end, ultimately, you are responsible for your own happiness, you are responsible for your own decisions, you are responsible for your own actions or inaction.

“I feel that if I try to make my life better that everything will not work out…"  So you’re saying that you’re so afraid of failure you’re not even going to try? (If you don’t try, you’ll never succeed.) Are you saying that it’s better to live a life of unhappiness and discontent, rather than to make the effort to change it?

One of the first questions to ask yourself is: What do I have to do to improve my life? 

Think about every area of your life, from relationships, to employment, to spirituality, to health (both mental & physical).   Make a list.  What do I need to do to improve my life?  How many things on this list are do-able in the short term, like now; and how many things on this list are long-term issues that you should start working on now in order to make the future better?  Once you’ve made this list, you can’t just sit forever and ponder on it, you actually have to get out there, contact the right people, and start things in motion.  You have to put effort into Action.

One thing about this that irks me is the fact that women in general have a tendency to be thrown completely for a loop when a relationship doesn’t work out.  It’s sad.  Yes, it’s disappointing, but it’s not the end of the world. You need to be a whole and complete, happy and content human being on your own before you’re ready to enter into a relationship with anyone.  I actually think that some women benefit from a period of time on their own, time to find their center, time to learn about who they really are and what they really want out of life.  Some women need a period of time to themselves to gain confidence in their ability to fend for themselves, to make good decisions, to handle business, to delve into their creative sides.  Some women just plain benefit from time to themselves, period.

My advice?…Stop pining for this guy you broke up with. Stop looking for imaginary spiritual mates in the ether world. Concentrate on this world, this life.  Take the idea of potential partners out of the picture all together. What do you want to do with your life? You said that you wanted to help people.  How do you intend to do this?  Does this touch your soul and make you feel good inside, good about yourself, good about the world? 

If you’re meant to find your soul mate, you will, when the universe and Spirit decide it’s time.  Stop wasting so much of your energy fretting over this issue.  In order to draw good things into your life, you have to surround yourself with and project positive energy.  Work on this.

Learn to love yourself.

Source:

Magickal Connections
April, 2014

#Tumblr ~ My Week in Review

I've discovered that my pretty Tumblr page is a delightful spot to post a week-in-review (I usually do this on Wednesdays)-- all the things I've worked on all over the internet; things going on at the moment personally that I might not talk about anywhere else (Do I have your attention yet?); breaking news; and any other stuff that comes to mind-- This week, included with all the regular activity, I think I'm coming down with something & I have discovered that I might not be Ex-Wives Club material....[to read more, follow the link]

My Week in Review...click  Here