Emotional Cheating ~ 10 signs that's what you're doing

 

How do you know if you are "emotionally cheating" on your partner?  Honestly, I would've thought that the individual who is doing this would have some idea, but I've done quite a bit of reading on this topic preparing for this post, and actually, there can be quite a bit of denial going on when someone is involved emotionally.  You'll hear a lot of "we're just friends", which is either overly-stated to convince themselves, or to convince their partner.

I found a very good article on this topic, and I'm going to just post the 10 signs right off the bat, and then we'll briefly explore the rest of it.  You'll find the original source for this information at the bottom of this post, which also contains links to other topics, as well as a link to a behavioral health specialist. This post will also be added to a collective post at this blog filled with links to a variety of relationship issues, as well as some posts that are focused on the more positive aspects of relationships, promise.  The collective post...  click HERE

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Top Ten Signs of Emotional Cheating

 

• You share things with the other person that you haven’t shared with your partner.
• You confide in the other person about your relationship troubles.
• You’ve become more detached and emotionally disconnected from your partner.
• You think about the other person all the time.
• You are less intimate with your partner.
• You lie to your partner about your relationship with the other person.
• You compare the other person to your partner.
• You fantasize romantically or dream about the other person.
• You hide or delete texts or emails on your phone, computer, etc.
• You become defensive and sensitive when your partner questions your relationship with the other person.

What to do about emotional cheating?

If you identify with some of the signs of emotional cheating, how do you begin to address them? 

• Be honest with yourself.

Acknowledge that you’re becoming emotionally involved with someone other than your partner.

• End the emotional affair.

To bring yourself back to the reality of your relationship with your partner, break off the relationship completely, rather than setting boundaries to continue this relationship.

• Reflect on what is missing in your current relationship.

Identify what you were getting from this other person that you weren’t getting in your current relationship. You may even want to involve a licensed behavioral health specialist to help.

• Discuss your emotional needs and reasons with your partner.

Whether or not you decide to let your partner know about your emotional affair, you do need to let your partner know that your relationship needs work. You might be surprised to find that they feel the same way. Be open and clear about what you both need in your relationship – emotionally, physically and intellectually—then make each other’s needs a priority.

• Recommit to your relationship.

Agree on dedicated time together. Be supportive of one another. Check in with your partner regularly and communicate what’s happening in your life. Enjoy dates with each other and find new ways to have fun together.

Source:
bannerhealthcare.com

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Organizing Your Life to Achieve Your Goals

Originally, this video tarot reading was posted specifically for one of my clients who purchased a video reading.  Just so you know how it works, purchased video readings are taped, edited, and uploaded anonymously at Youtube; and when all is said and done, I email my client a link to their video, which is open for public viewing.  I usually do this and don’t give it another thought.  But this video is different.  I’ve watched this video several times, and the more I’ve watched it the more a dawning realization came to me ~ the message in this video is universal.  Of course it applies directly to my client and to all the personal hurdles and obstacles, all the personal dreams, desires, and goals that encompass this individual and their unique set of circumstances; but there is so much more to it.  So many of us, myself included, can benefit by what Spirit has to say through this reading, and this set of six cards.

 

 

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A Woman's Magickal Milestones ~ Birthdays

Birthdays

Another year passes.  With the first birthdays, in the Maiden stage, each one becomes a celebratory milestone, but after a woman reaches 30 in our culture, we begin to associate a feeling of trepidation with the passing of another year. Why?  What’s not to celebrate?  Forget that our society foolishly worships youth and suffers from a chronic case of Peter Pan Syndrome; instead, celebrate, be joyful, embrace each year, embrace each change within yourself.  You are not aging, you are growing.  This is the difference, this is what our culture, our society, doesn’t see, or tries to deny.  With time women grow wiser, more assertive, more complete within themselves.  They Bloom!

Grow, Sweet Woman, grow in time, grow in wisdom, grow in laughter, grow in strength, grow in love, grow in power, grow in creativity, grow in magick.

Excel
Succeed
Experience
Enjoy

The 10th Year
The Threshold:  Childhood…Maidenhood
I still have one foot in the world of my childhood, but I can see through the open threshold before me.  The view is hazy yet.  It’s still so early, and I am still so young.  I see a shadow of the woman I will become.

The 20th Year
The Threshold:  Adolcescence…Adulthood
I’m taking baby steps, trying out my adult legs, finding my center.  Which direction will I go?  Where will I establish my roots?…roots of career and relationships.  The foundation I build now will determine the stability of my future.  Is it really all just a roll of the dice, or does destiny lay in my young and inexperienced hands?

The 30th Year
The Threshold:  Maidenhood…Motherhood
I step through a doorway to find myself standing in the mad rush of Life.  I am careening along at full speed, swerving to avoid potholes, watching the clock, knowing that I have a destination and a dead line to meet, knowing I have an appointment with Responsibility.

The 40th Year
The Threshold:  Motherhood…Middleage
I’m at a crossroads, no longer young, but not yet old.  The world around me appears to lose focus as boundaries and expectations are blurred.  What once was perfectly clear is now laced with questions.  The Universe is giving me a choice.  I watch in alarmed fascination as new paths open before me, each yellow brick road beckoning me,  “Come this way!”

The 50th Year
The Threshold:  Middleage…The Crone
I suddenly realize who I am, I mean the “me” that I must have lost along the way.  I suddenly realize that the only opinion that counts is my own.  I suddenly realize who my friends are and who they aren’t.  I suddenly realize that I am not afraid to face the world alone.  I suddenly realize that I have reached a plateau enabling me to scrutinize my past and glimpse my future.  I suddenly realize…I have arrived.

The 60th Year
The Threshold:  The Crone…The Golden Age
I’m at a crossroads, no longer middle-aged, but not yet old, not really, I say with defiance.  My body speaks to me now, still proud of its strength, its endurance.  My body speaks to me with relish, embracing the last blazing autumn of life.

The 70th Year
The Threshold:  The Golden Age…Old Age
I will reap what I have sown, whether this be children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren, or the golden glow of accomplishments.  I will stop to smell the roses.  I will stop to watch the sunset.  I will stop to pet a dog, or hold a cat.  I will stop to speak to an old friend.  I will stop to say, “I love you.”; “Hello”; “Good-by”; and “I’m sorry.”

The 80th Year
The Threshold:  The Crone Glorified
I am elevated.  From this vantage point I stand in the stillness of dawn.  I stand in the midst of gentle rain on black earth.  I stand in the warmth of a loved one’s hand on my arm.  I stand, not in the shadow of The Crone, but shoulder to shoulder with her.  I am one with the goddess.

The 90th Year
The Threshold:  Rebirth
I look at the world and see it as hazy images in a crystal ball.  The images are people I’ve loved, places I’ve been, things I’ve done.  And as I stare at the images within this universal sphere, I can see that they are fading, getting dimmer, and soon they will disappear.  I know that as these images and this world are fading, there is another beautiful glorious crystal ball, and within it I can see the sunrise bursting over the horizon, lighting the way for a new journey…in the next Life.

This blog post is an excerpt from my book,

The Spiritual Feminist

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Woman Speak

 

 An innovative Video Series

 

Explore the world of women, witches, and pagans on a variety of levels at Woman Speak. Reconnect with The Goddess. Find healing, empowerment, and sisterhood through Matriarchal Divinity. The topics are pagan, occult, new-age, paranormal, and supernatural. The topics will also center around feminism, relationships, family, careers, writing, and books.

 

Woman Speak– exploring women’s issues.

 

 

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Individual “Woman Speak” episodes are  also listed here as Links:

 

Woman Speak 4-3-2015

 

I AM…celebrating You and your connection to The Goddess.

 

Woman Speak 3-27-2015

 

This week’s goddess is Pele, and we’re going to use her energy, along with the element of Fire, to manifest desires and wishes into our lives with a ritual. (Also included, a special thank you to The Spellery magazine for allowing me to be a part of their 1st edition and their magickal launch!)

 

Woman Speak 3-20-2015

 

The Goddess is Copia; the tarot card is seven of wands.  In this episode you are invited inside the Witch’s house to snoop in her Magickal Cupboard!  What do you think you’ll find?

 

Woman Speak 3-13-2015

 

The Goddess is Snake Woman, the energy and magick are all about unity and communication, whether women gather for rituals, discussions, or private conversations. I’m joined this week by 2 of my daughters for an UNEDITED round-table discussion.  It’s lively, off-the-cuff, and totally unpredictable! Also joining me this week are two black cats:  Dolly & Salem.

 

Woman Speak 3-6-2015

 

This week the goddess is Airmed.  The topics are herbs and green witchcraft.  Our project– we’re going to create a Witch’s Bottle for Love Magick.  You’ll also find a section at this video on precautions for love magick, encouraging common sense, as well as the use of mundane efforts to keep your life running smoothly, and to keep yourself safe.  The National Domestic Abuse Hotline number will be found at the end of this video.

 

Woman Speak 2-27-2015

 

The goddess is Aurora…and with this goddess comes the happy anticipation of Spring, new beginnings, second chances, clean slates, rejuvenation. Plant new life-seeds now, and watch your future blossom.  To honor & invoke this goddess, we’re doing a short ritual to The Four Winds (Aurora’s children)…join me.

 

Woman Speak 2-20-2015

 

The goddess is Cybele.  The topics include sexual orientation, transsexuals, transgender individuals, acceptance, and tolerance.  We talk about learning to accept ourselves and celebrate our unique individuality.  We also talk about how society has to move forward and improve how it accepts– and treats– people who live their lives “outside the box”.  Ms. Jenner…this one’s for you.

 

Woman Speak 2-13-2015

 

The Goddess is Aphrodite, the topic is birthdays and how we celebrate these milestones in connection with the Goddess and all the unique stages in a woman’s life.  The discussion is about– Beauty.  What’s beautiful, what’s not…How has our society and culture influenced our idea of physical beauty, our idea of youth and aging…How can we relearn to recognize and appreciate the inner beauty we all possess?  How can we redefine what’s beautiful?

 

Woman Speak 2-6-2015

 

Come plant rosemary with me…the Goddess is Thalia, the herb blessed Rosemary.  Where ever you might live, whether on an acreage, or in an apartment, plant a garden to invoke goddess energy.  Here’s what to plant at the four corners and at the elemental quarters.  And what shall we put in the center?…let’s find out.

 

Woman Speak 1-30-2015

 

Topics include:  Astarte; Tarot/Knight of cups; finding the warrior goddess in you; our “knight-in-shining-armor”–  chasing the fairy tale; the duality of woman’s nature.

 

Women are incredible! To traverse life we have to take on so many different personas and faces.  But we do it, and we do it So Well!  Discovering and honoring the warrior goddess within yourself does not mean that you have to sacrifice the soft, beautiful, uniquely feminine side of your nature– both energies are in your power and control.

 

Woman Speak 1-23-2015

 

Topics include:  White Buffalo Calf Woman; Tarot/the 2 of cups; 10 tips for women– surviving the modern world. Relationships– Is your Ex badmouthing you publically? How you can deal with this situation, both on a mundane level and magically.

 

Woman Speak 1-16-2015

 

I’m very excited at this taping because my new book, “The Spiritual Feminist”, had just came out on Amazon and was available to be pre-ordered.  Included in this discussion is a note about the special dedication page and the very personal aspects of this book.  Also…Spell casting information; Magickal Connections– and a blog post I was working on at the time (Witchcraft: It’s All About the Journey, Not the Destination); Lisa Allen (Master Herbalist & Astrologer); as well as other personal stuff (kidz & carz).

 

Woman Speak 1-9-2015

 

The goddess is Lucina. The magick is Knot Magick done during a Baby Shower to see the mother and child through to a safe birth.  This magick is unleashed in a ritual after labor has begun.  Good stuff!– feminine bonding and support.  Also included, personal stuff, daily chit-chat.