How do you know if you are "emotionally cheating" on your partner? Honestly, I would've thought that the individual who is doing this would have some idea, but I've done quite a bit of reading on this topic preparing for this post, and actually, there can be quite a bit of denial going on when someone is involved emotionally. You'll hear a lot of "we're just friends", which is either overly-stated to convince themselves, or to convince their partner.
I found a very good article on this topic, and I'm going to just post the 10 signs right off the bat, and then we'll briefly explore the rest of it. You'll find the original source for this information at the bottom of this post, which also contains links to other topics, as well as a link to a behavioral health specialist. This post will also be added to a collective post at this blog filled with links to a variety of relationship issues, as well as some posts that are focused on the more positive aspects of relationships, promise. The collective post... click HEREIf anyone has a particular issue or topic that you would like to see at my blog, whether relating to relationships, tarot, spirituality, paganism, etc., send your question or suggestion to my email: firstname.lastname@example.org
Top Ten Signs of Emotional Cheating
- You share things with the other person that you haven’t shared with your partner.
- You confide in the other person about your relationship troubles.
- You’ve become more detached and emotionally disconnected from your partner.
- You think about the other person all the time.
- You are less intimate with your partner.
- You lie to your partner about your relationship with the other person.
- You compare the other person to your partner.
- You fantasize romantically or dream about the other person.
- You hide or delete texts or emails on your phone, computer, etc.
- You become defensive and sensitive when your partner questions your relationship with the other person.
What to do about emotional cheating?
If you identify with some of the signs of emotional cheating, how do you begin to address them?
- Be honest with yourself.
Acknowledge that you’re becoming emotionally involved with someone other than your partner.
- End the emotional affair.
To bring yourself back to the reality of your relationship with your partner, break off the relationship completely, rather than setting boundaries to continue this relationship.
- Reflect on what is missing in your current relationship.
Identify what you were getting from this other person that you weren’t getting in your current relationship. You may even want to involve a licensed behavioral health specialist to help.
- Discuss your emotional needs and reasons with your partner.
Whether or not you decide to let your partner know about your emotional affair, you do need to let your partner know that your relationship needs work. You might be surprised to find that they feel the same way. Be open and clear about what you both need in your relationship – emotionally, physically and intellectually—then make each other’s needs a priority.
- Recommit to your relationship.
Agree on dedicated time together. Be supportive of one another. Check in with your partner regularly and communicate what’s happening in your life. Enjoy dates with each other and find new ways to have fun together.
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