The Narcissist ~ 1. Social Sites 2. Their Cell Phones

 

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Six Things Wrong with Social Sites

1.  You find a site that looks promising and interesting, something maybe right down your alley.  You go through the sign up form carefully filling in all the blanks. You pick out a profile photo.  You run a typing marathon figuring out answers to questions like..."What's the basic premise of your spirituality?"...or "Tell us in detail All About You!"...or "Fill in the details of this very important box, or you won't get your foot through the frickin' door."...etc.  You get all primed and ready to set up your own page after spending 20 minutes to a half hour filling things out (not too mention maybe an hour of time it took just to find this particular site, or the extra half hour that went into dealing with technical glitches), and then, once you click the "Join" button, a page pops up that says something to the effect, "Sorry chump, you have to be approved before you can join this site, so sit back and get comfortable, this may take a while, or you might never hear from us again."

2.  There's a big warning sign posted on the home page:  You must participate if you want to be a member of this site.  Anyone who doesn't add something during a specific time span (every two weeks, or every week, or once a month, or once every five days, etc. etc.) will be deleted.

Okay, okay, okay.  If people don't add content and interact, it won't be a social site.  I get that.  But this is not realistic for me, my work-weary brain says.  Are they frickin' kidding me??  I just want to read blogs, or I want to post some of my stuff (very) occasionally, or I want to see what other people are into, or what someone else thinks about this or that.  And I love it when they actually have a box on the fill-out form where you have to "click HERE as a promise you will post on a regular basis". 

This seems like too much commitment and too much work to me.  I'm sorry, but the microscopic particle of internet space you have created is not the center of my universe.  I don't promise anything, not even to people in real life, in the real world.  Get real.

3.  Social Sites, just like the real world, are full of Creepers.  Sad but true, but on the internet social site, Creepers can hide the fact that they're creepers for a longer period of time than they might be able to in the real world.  And Creepers hate being called out when you spot them and aim a finger at them and call 'em as you see 'em.  "What, what are you talking about?" they stutter. 

4.  You join a site, decide for whatever reason that you don't like it, or it's just not for you, and then discover that deleting your page and information is not an option, or is such a twisted garbled (maybe deliberately confusing) process, that your page is left tacked to a weary crappy site like an old sticky note on the bathroom mirror.

5.  Everyone ignores you, or they communicate only by leaving images in your comment box.  Um, this is a Social Site.  We're suppose to T-A-L-K to each other.  And for me, this does not mean that you leave an occasional meme in the comment box.  I think people resort to leaving images just so they don't have to actually COMMUNICATE with each other.  I would rather see a single sentence, even something like, "My cat died today, and I got a parking ticket.  It was a rough day.", rather than one of a gazillion generic images found on the internet.  At least this single sentence TELLS me something about this person!

I don't leave comments.  It is a huge waste of time.  If I have something to actually SAY to you, I'll do that, but life is too short to spend it leaving multiple images on multiple pages of multiple strangers.

6.  A site won't let you see what it's like, or browse it's content, before you join.  How in the hell are you suppose to know if you even want to be a member if you can't see anything first??  Give me a break.

Hey

I belong to the Old-Married-Lady Club. In spite of this fact, which I very prominently display on all and every internet site that might include interaction with strangers, I will receive messages from men who have apparently not bothered to read one iota of information about me, including the fact that I am not single, and I'm not available-- just ask my husband.

Anyway, as an old-married-lady I feel I can give bachelors (young and not so young) a fair word of worldly advice about communicating with women.  One very strange phenomena that I've noticed on a world-wide global level among men is a penchant for sending one-word messages to Females Who Catch Their Eye.  And that message is:

Hey

That's it, just "Hey".  No "Hello, you look so lovely, I was wondering if I could have a moment of your time to discuss poetry; books; the state of modern romance and courting; favorite movies; hobbies and past times; journey's; bucket lists; animals; families; children...etc."

Nope, nothing like that.  Just:

Hey

There is also no attempt to uncover any details about the Object of their message; and they apparently are not going to take the time to actually Read any of the information about this individual; but you'd think that they'd want to get to know the woman that they're contacting. You would think they'd realize this is a multi-dimensional human being with lots of layers to them, not just a still image on a computer screen.  So you'd think these men would ask questions like:  "What's your favorite thing to do on a rainy day; have you ever rode a horse; toilet paper-- over or under; your favorite-- drink, book, movie, etc.; your opinion on [fill in the blank]; what do you think about the world at large; global warming; the price of rice in China?

Nope, nothing even remotely like that.  Just:

Hey

 

Guys...this ain't gonna' work, but...hey.

Edit:  Okay, all you bachelors out there, get your mental muscles revved up, watch a few notoriously emotional and romantic chick-flicks (for inspiration), and go find your True Love.  Another Very-Big-Piece-Of-Advice I'm going to give you is read the "about" section of your target's page!  Do not waste your time and energy on women who are "married", "just here for networking" or "friends".

Remember, if you can't take 2 minutes of your time to really look at a woman's profile, she isn't going to take 2 minutes of her time to respond to your message. 

 Good luck!
 



I'm ME Again!

I'M BACK!!...after a temporary glitch, and a temporary suspension, everything has been straightened out with my Facebook Account-- I Am ME after all!
 

 

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Facebook: Hide n' Seek

The latest FB oddity, and social networks are odd enough to begin with, is that you can request your friends to click on your profile picture and make any comments you leave on their page invisible to the rest of the world.

I had to think on this one...First, if you're going to leave comments that are included in public discussions and posts on someone else's page, why not let everyone see them?  Second, why make someone else responsible for the privacy of your comments that you are leaving on their public page?  And what if, just what if, your friends don't want to click on your public profile picture and follow through with this request?  What are you going to do then, huh?...refuse to post on their wall?  unfriend them?

And why would anyone make such a request in the first place?  Quite frankly, it makes you look sneaky.

You have to suspect that this request comes from someone who may want to leave snarky bitchy comments, and they want to wallow in their witty sarcasms with the safe and secure knowledge that their target is unaware of their actions.

Look at it this way-- if you really have something private to say to someone, you can send them a private message-- that's what this is for...hello?  Otherwise, stay the fuck off their public page.