Ten Questions and the Answers You May Need

 

What do I need to know about this situation?

(3/pentacles; 8/pentacles -- reversed; The Devil)

Something isn't working, that's just the thing, and you are trying incredibly hard to MAKE it work.  Kind of like Cinderella's ugly step-sister trying futilely to shove her big ugly foot into the little glass slipper.  It's not a fit -- whatever this situation is for you, and the glass slipper is NEVER going to fit.  If you keep trying to slam a round peg into a square hole, all you'll wind up with is problems and issues that will compile with time.

What’s the best path I can take at this time?

(Ace/swords -- reversed; Justice; 7/wands)

The best path:  Silence.

You don't need to plea your case to attain justice.  There's someone who is trying to do just that, and this effort will fail them miserably.  I'm feeling that this is a court case for someone.  Stand your ground, guard your space, your integrity, and yourself.  Maintain boundaries.

How can I improve my relationship with ___________?

(Prince/cups -- reversed; Temperance; 5/swords; 4/wands) 

For the relationship on your mind:  Maintain your unique connection and energy with this person.  Don't allow differences to chip away at your relationship, because doing so will only weaken your bond.  Don't -- be defensive, pick petty squabbles, or be mean trying to prove a point... your point isn't that important. By treating your connection with this person as something valuable -- and fragile -- you'll find yourselves moving on to the next level.

What can I do to make __________happen?

(5/wands -- reversed; 9/wands -- reversed; Justice; Ace/swords -- reversed) 

To make this happen:  Stop overthinking a situation.  Stop the internal arguments and negative brain chatter.  Banish the stagnation and begin moving forward again... with a project, with a relationship, with a dream, with a goal.  Set boundaries where boundaries are needed, but don't paint yourself into a solitary corner... sometimes we need help, sometimes we need advice, sometimes we just need someone to cheer us on.

What am I not seeing at this time?

(2/cups -- reversed; 3/wands -- reversed; Ace/wands; The Sun -- reversed; The Hanged Man -- reversed)

You are not seeing...

A relationship that is going through significant changes, either you're not aware, or you are avoiding the process.

The choices that are before you, either you don't realize they exist, or you don't want to make a choice... that would mean taking responsibility for the outcome.

You're turning a blind eye to a unique opportunity the universe is laying at your feet, either you're not interested, or you are afraid of failure.  Not accepting this opportunity lets you off the hook.

You're not seeing that the lack of happiness in your life could be from stagnation, inertia, and lack of motivation.  Start moving forward and seek the Sun... make plans, do things; make plans for something that you've secretly longed to do, do stuff that everyone may have told you that you couldn't do.  Prove them wrong.

In what way am I holding myself back?



(Queen/swords -- reversed; Princess/pentacles -- reversed; Judgement; 7/wands -- reversed; 8/swords; The Hierophant)


You are holding yourself back by...

Isolating yourself, then feeling trapped in your own solitude.

Embracing conformity because you were told this was right, and at one time, this may have been expected from you.

You are holding yourself  back by holding  your tongue, either because you don't think saying what's on your mind would be appropriate or nice, or it could cause friction.  There are times when you don't have to be nice or appropriate, and friction makes heat and heat makes fire and fire burns off the weeds.

You're holding yourself back with  your naiveté.  Don't be afraid to look at and acknowledge gritty, dirty, uncomfortable things that need to be acknowledged in order to be avoided.

Don't miss second chances.

Don't be super critical of yourself, cut yourself some slack.  Someone needs to.

What can I expect if I choose _____________?

(Princess/swords -- reversed; The Hermit; 6/pentacles -- reversed; King/pentacles; 3/swords; 4/pentacles; 5/pentacles)

If  you choose to contact someone, expect some uncomfortable and difficult conversation.

If you choose the wrong relationship for the wrong reasons, expect some heartache.

If you're hanging onto your money and embracing your finances with miserly hugs, expect an unexpected expense or a request for financial aide from someone.

If you choose a solitary path, expect some unexpected enlightenment.  It will be your spiritual "aha" moment.

If you expect some equal give and take... in a relationship, in a financial situation, in a family dynamic... expect to be awash in the golden glow of stability.

How can I understand _________?



A relationship breakup, separation, or divorce...

(2/wands; Princess/wands -- reversed; 6/swords; Queen/cups)

It's not always someone's "fault", sometimes relationships just come to a natural conclusion.  Not all connections that we make are meant to last a life time, sometimes people cross our path briefly when there's something we need to learn from them, or something they need to learn from us.

Sometimes the passion just dissipates, it just does.

Sometimes you may get tired of waiting for another person to make up their mind about their feelings for you and your future together... but here's the thing -- you don't have to wait helplessly for an endless period of time to see if someone is going to make a decision to love you and have a life with you.  You have the power to make a decision to move on if you're tired of waiting.("Here, let me decide for you", you can say.)

Where should I direct my energy at this time?

(4a/wands -- reversed; Princess/wands; The High Priestess; 2/cups -- reversed; 3/wands; Ace/wands)

At this time, your energy should be...

Focused on your personal happiness and pursuing those things that you are passionate about.

Your energy should be set loose from a difficult situation to follow new adventures and meet new people.

Your energy should be focused inward toward your intuitive spiritual self.  There are enlightening "aha" experiences awaiting you on this plane.

Make a decision or choice... with passion.

Why does this pattern keep showing up in my life — and what can I do to change it?

(The Sun; 8/cups -- reversed; Strength; 8/pentacles -- reversed; **Queen/wands (R)/King/wands**; 10/pentacles)

This pattern is showing up because...

You left something behind which brought you great happiness, and you are under the assumption that you're not strong enough to go back and recapture it.  This is your pattern, and it has left a trail in its wake.

To change it, you need to change your thought patterns...

Expect something worthwhile to require a certain amount of work.  You may also be searching for this perfect ideal of what you think happiness is.  Let's garner a more realistic view.  Take control of your life back if you have, over time, unwittingly relinquished it to a spouse, partner, parent, or other individual.