Some people find their true love and life-time partner right off the bat and spend the next five to seven decades in harmonious coupledom. But there are others of us who will spend a life time searching for "The One". And during this arduous, often tempestuous, and discouraging search, we will run into people and relationships that we thought were the right one, only to recognize a mistake, often well after it's been made.
When you finally hit the jack pot at the end of the proverbial rainbow, and your One True Love, aka Prince Charming, comes along. You need to recognize him. You need to acknowledge him. You need to appreciate him. And you need to Keep Him!
Good luck, Ladies!... I hope you are as fortunate as I am.
- EVEN WHEN LIFE GETS CRAZY HECTIC, YOU ALWAYS FEEL LIKE HIS NUMBER ONE PRIORITY.
If he were to list all his priorities, where would you rank in the pecking order? If you think you’d come first, which is the only place you should be, he’s a keeper. Your guy should value your relationship above anything else. Yes, that includes sports, nights out with the guys, or past partners. That’s not to say he can’t or shouldn’t have a life outside of your relationship but that you should feel loved and valued in the midst of it all.
- HE’S THERE FOR YOU EVEN WHEN YOU DON’T REALIZE YOU NEED HIM.
Is your guy there for you during a crisis, even if things get a little messy, or if the timing’s inconvenient? You know you’re with a good guy if he goes above and beyond to help you through a rough time. If you’re looking for a long-term partner, it’s essential for him to show you compassion, consideration, and empathy when you need it the most (and even when you don’t realize you need it).
- HE CAN’T IMAGINE A FUTURE WITHOUT YOU IN IT.
You know he’s not leading you down the garden path if he talks about you in his future. Does he ever mention you when he talks about his life goals? If he can’t imagine going through any stage of his life without you by his side, that shows he’s thinking long-term and means business about your relationship. Yup, he’s a keeper.
- HE WANTS TO GET TO KNOW THE OTHER PEOPLE YOU KNOW AND LOVE.
Your friends and family are important to you so they’re important to him too. If he’s invited to a family party or a friend's birthday, he’s excited to go with you. He considers getting to know the people who’ve helped shape the woman he loves a privilege, and that’s a rare thing.
- YOUR SUCCESS BRINGS HIM JOY.
Some men are intimidated by successful women. Their egos are too fragile so they can’t hack it when their girlfriends are totally killin’ it in everything they do. This can lead to jealousy, bitterness, and filthy arguments. If your guy’s genuinely happy for and proud of you for smashing one goal after another and even brags about your accomplishment to others, he’s a keeper. Your guy should be your biggest cheerleader, after all.
- HE ACTUALLY LISTENS TO YOU BECAUSE HE CARES ABOUT YOUR DAY TO DAY LIFE.
Does he not just hear what you have to say but actually absorb the information? If you have a big interview coming up or a daunting meeting ahead, does he remember? A simple text wishing you good luck, or a call to ask how it went, shows he genuinely cares about you and your well-being. Sure, he might not always find these things super interesting, but they interest him because they have to do with you.
- HE HELPS YOU BECOME THE BEST POSSIBLE VERSION OF YOURSELF.
Your partner should make you feel like a million dollars: confident, fabulous, and beautiful. If you ever find your guy slowly chipping away at your self-confidence, or putting you down, kick him to the curb. The right guy for you will make you feel like a superstar every single day.
Can he make you feel better when you feel like poo? Whether he reminds you of an inside joke you share, surprises you with wine, or submits to binge-watching The Good Witch, he always knows how to put a smile back on your face.
- HE HAS HIS LIFE TOGETHER AND IS TRULY READY FOR A MATURE RELATIONSHIP.
There’s no point wasting time trying to turn a boy into a man. If you want to make long-term plans with this guy, he should have his own apartment because he’s done with the bachelor lifestyle. He should be focused on his career and happy to start settling down. Make sure you’re both on the same page with this, otherwise it’ll only lead to upset.
- HE TRULY VALUES YOUR OPINION.
Although he doesn’t always take your advice, he always asks for your opinion when it comes to major life choices. This is a sure sign he appreciates your input and takes you seriously. That’s the kind of guy you want to be with, right?