Beyond the Veil ~ celebrate the wedding reception that didn't take place

 
The focus for this reading is a female, and her name begins with an "L".  I hear something that sounds very much like "Lavidia", or something very similar.  She shows herself as being around 29 years old, in her late 20s/early 30s.  She was either around this age when she passed, or this was a time in her life when she was happiest.

She had a complicated relationship with authorities, or with a very authoritative figure.  She talks about inflicting a lot of damage to herself, either through poor choices, or through physical self-harming.  Someone was keeping an eye on her, or flat out stalking her, spying on her.  She seems to have been aware of this at the time, though she seems very untroubled by it now.

She talks about a place in the forest, being close to nature, and she feels very peaceful and calm as she refers to this.  She talks about being close to trees, and she finds delight in the fact that the wild things come close to her.  She is either describing her version of heaven, or her burial site.

She talks about regrets and damage or fallout done to other people because of her.  She feels that she left before she had finished with her tasks here among the living.

She talks about being reunited with a former partner.  They were either married when he passed, or were planning to be married.  She shows herself in a wedding dress now.  She may have purchased this dress just before her partner passed.  This was important to her, her partner and their wedding plans.

In remembrance, hold a small "reception" or dinner with friends and family.  This will be the reception she never got to experience, but she will see it, her and her partner, and the warm feelings of celebration will make her very happy.  Make sure you include flowers in this gathering, lots of flowers, she's very adamant about this.  She will get to experience an event that she was so looking forward to in life through you.  

The Spirits Speak ~ You need to find your voice

The Deck: The DreamKeeper's Tarot 

The Cards: Ace/swords; 6/wands; Hanged Woman; Knight/wands; The Fates

 

You may find yourself taking on a difficult conversation, and not by choice.  In order to make a point, in order to reach a goal, in order to come out ahead (in a positive way), you may be called upon to face someone, or a situation, head on.  This is going to mean talking to them, or talking about it.  This is the only way you're going to clear the air and celebrate your independence and peace of mind.

Spirit says, "Swallow the bitter pill first, and celebrate with sweet wine afterward."

By opening the channel of communication in a straight forward (sometimes blunt) manner, you will put something into motion that's been sitting at a stand still.  You will revive a situation, a relationship, or a person with a new sense of passion and energy.  You will cut through insignificant people, opinions, or influences that are no longer serving you.

Caught Between Two Kings ~ the lady is a player

 

At the time I taped this video, I was recovering from a seasonal bug that was going around. I was still exhausted and didn't feel good on many levels, but I wanted to do a video so bad that I went ahead with it. 

The result are several strange clips of weird readings strung together. I felt so frustrated, but I continued reading after reading, until the last reading I did, the final three cards, gave us the main point of this whole thing. But what I didn't realize until I put it all together, is that all of those seemingly "disjointed" readings, when I felt so tired and disconnected, were all actually leading to the climax. 

Tarot never ceases to amaze me.

Looks Like You Get a Second Chance ~ but are you sure you want it?

 

This reading was just filled with the uncertain energies of choices to be made, decisions to reach, and impending conversations that need to be had. Whatever the scenario in your life that fits this reading, I empathize with you, as it appears the universe may be giving you a second chance, a do-over. But here's the thing -- this is a moment of dejavu -- you've had this second chance before, and it didn't work, and in a big way. So, do you really want to give it another go? Sometimes it might be best to let sleeping dogs lay, just saying.

Eyes Wide Shut ~ A Secret Revealed Brings a Tower Moment

 

The Deck: Light Seer's Tarot
(The High Priestess; The Tower; The Emperor -- etc.)

Someone doesn't see it coming; or someone is deliberately trying to ignore it; or someone is in denial; or someone is not listening to that little voice in their head... Warning lights should be going off.

I started this as a written reading and decided that there was just too much here to say, so it's a video now.  Also, for the past several days two cards have been coming up together reading, after reading... 6/cups and The Moon -- with The Tower. Someone from your past is coming in with a devastating secret that will altar lives; someone from your past is coming in at a time that will prove disruptive to your life as you know it now.  Someone is coming in and going to reveal something to you that will blow you away.

So, how are you going to handle it?

Out With the Old, In With the New ~ the Queen/pentacles, don't underestimate her

 

As it so often happens, this reading mirrors the written reading I did this morning for our Daily Cards. It's kind of eerie when that happens, but it just tells us that there is a definite energy and vibe that needs expressing. Here's a link to that reading, those daily cards, at my blog: https://everycathasatale.blogspot.com... 

Just a heads up... the Queen/pentacles at first appears oblivious and complacent about what's going on around her. She is not. She had me fooled too, until I pulled that last batch of cards. Don't underestimate her. If you're lucky, she just doesn't care. And if you're not so lucky... well.

Caught In the Middle With You

The Deck: The Seer's Tarot
(King/wands; 8/pentacles; Queen/swords -- reversed; The Moon; 6/cups)

I'm seeing two scenarios here:

• First, the words from an old song I vaguely recall is running through my mind -- "Caught in the middle with you..."

As this King and Queen are working on their connection, their relationship, and their life, an unseen third party is quietly going on with their existence between them, in the middle.  She seems oblivious, untroubled even, intent on her work, her daily tasks.

• Second, there is a lot of quiet, in the background work going on between this King and Queen.  There is the feeling of opposition between them right now, maybe a lot, maybe only enough to irritate the connection.  But they're working on it.  

This could refer to fixing an existing relationship, reconnecting an old relationship, or being involved in an extracurricular relationship... that sounds odd, but that best describes it.

The Moon is so beautiful and so exquisitely problematic.  It so often exposes lies, and deception, and secrets hidden in the shadows, those dark corners of our mind and our life.  The problem with secrets, other than they represent something that must be pretty undesirable if someone doesn't want them known, is that there is always the possibility of exposure, sooner or later.

With today's cards, the 6 of cups shows us that there is a strong link here to someone's past, whether memories, people, relationships, or regrets.  Maybe a sad combination of all.

My prediction... when the secrets are exposed, the couple will be successful in healing their connection.  But for the individual caught in the middle... how does the rest of that song go?

Boogey On Down Your Path

 
Housewives Tarot Deck was requested for this reading.

• (4/swords; 3/swords; 5/cups; The Fool)

It looks like there's been one too many "forks in the cake", and what a pretty scrumptious cake it looks, but there are times when sharing is frowned upon.  This is one of them. The three of swords unabashedly proclaims three-way relationships that usually result in expected ramifications.  In this case, you've had your time to mourn a loss, lick the wounds of betrayal, and put a pox upon a liar.  But now it's time to let all that go.

Take a deep breath... 

Now it's time to focus on yourself, your inward spiritual self, your centered mental self, and the glorious physical self that encompasses it all.  Grab your knapsack and head to the spa, the hairstylist, your favorite clothing store.  Buy new makeup, buy new shoes, and get to marching down that new path with purpose, your path, a direction that you've chosen for yourself.  Embrace determination and intent with a healthy dose of ego.  Yes, to paraphrase a makeup commercial, "You're worth it."

All of this positive action, intention, and thought will manifest something new and fascinating.  It will put before you an opportunity, or an individual, that will be quite a surprise.  Own it.

Twin Flames ~ Do we all have one?... and other questions

 

Definition:  A twin flame is an incredibly intense soul connection. A more apt description of a twin flame is a “mirror soul” or a person’s “other half.”

What are the signs of a Twin Flame?

1. Instant Recognition and Intense Attraction.
2. Synchronicity.
3. Intense Emotions.
4. Amplified Insecurities and Doubts.
5. Feeling Drawn to the Other Person.
6. The Relationship Is Turbulent.
7. You're On-Again, Off-Again.
8. You're Inspired to Be a Better Person.

What's a Twin Flame & How Do You Know If You've Found Yours?

You’ve heard of soul mates, but what about twin flames? While the two concepts might seem similar, they’re significantly different.

While there’s a lack of scientific evidence proving that twin flames exist, some psychologists say the phenomenon is real — and worth exploring... (click the title link to continue reading)

Are Twin Flames meant to be?

Twin flame relationships are thought to be the most intense relationships we can have in our lives -- but they're not always meant to last. Sometimes, twin flames go through a separation period, and whether the separation ends up being permanent depends on that particular pair.

Why Twin Flames Separate & What To Do If It Happens

But make no mistake: Twin Flame relationships are also challenging and can quickly become toxic when one or both parties aren't ready. "The very fact that a person believes you are "meant to be'" can cloud their judgment about issues in the relationship," Spinelli notes... (click the title link to continue reading)

Can Twin Flames look alike?

Their souls are similar, but their genes are not, which means some of their physical appearances will be similar, and some will not be. For example, the facial structure of both twin flames will likely be different.

Do Twin Flames Look Alike?

Twin flames often have the same eyes, whether it’s eye color or eye shape. This is because Twin Flames come from the same soul, which means they have the same energy signature. The energy signature is what’s reflected in their eyes.

...If one twin flame looks into the other twin flame’s eyes, they will see their own reflection because their energy signature is the same. Other people will often pick up the similarity because energy comes through the eyes... (click the title link to continue reading)

Do you only have one Twin Flame?

The difference between the two is you can have many different soul mates in life, but you only have one twin flame. Your twin flame is the person who simply understands you the most out of everyone you meet.

The Seven Stages of  Connection You'll Experience If You Find Your Twin Flame

Your Twin Flame is someone who makes you feel like you're meeting a part of yourself that you have yet to discover, but somehow feels incredibly familiar. This person adds to your life in ways that no one else has before. They don’t complete you — because you’re complete all on your own — but they complement you in ways that support your personal growth... (click the title link to continue reading)

How do you know if you've met your Soul Mate or your Twin Flame?

Whether you encounter a Soul Mate or your Twin Flame, the theory surrounding how you will feel is the same. The bond will be deep and meaningful from the offset. Whether you have known this person for five minutes or five years, the pull that you feel will be hard to resist...

How to Tell the Difference Between Your Soul Mate and Your Twin Flame

Do you believe certain people are fated to be in your life? If you’ve ever met a stranger and felt an almost magnetic pull toward them, there could be a reason for that. The theory of Soul Mates and Twin Flames suggests that this individual shares an ancient connection with you. They are part of the very fabric of your soul. So, what’s the difference between these individuals, and how will you know when you meet each of them?... (click the title link to continue reading)

Does everyone have a Twin Flame?

No. Twin Flame connections are very rare as they require a split in the soul to be created. Those who don't have a twin flame have yet to experience this fracture.

Surrender ~ what's holding you back

 

The oracle deck, "Whispers of Lord GANESHA", was requested for today's reading.

• (The Cards: Surrender; Joy; Divine Support; Inner Knowing; Insight; Fulfillment)

When you finally learn how to surrender -- expectations, apprehension, anxiety, negative thoughts, or any of the many personal demons that may be holding you back, you will find room for accomplishment, success, love, creativity, and... joy.

You already know, yes, you really do, what it is you need to surrender.  That little voice in your head has most likely been whispering this knowledge to you for years.  You also instinctively know what it is you need to do to succeed and find fulfillment.  But knowing what we need to let go of, and knowing what we need to do to achieve a goal is very different from actually letting go and doing.  Sometimes we have to work ourselves up to this point.

As you make this journey of surrender and achievement, one of many journeys you will make in your life, know that you have support and encouragement not only from family, friends, or a loving partner, but from the universe and Spirit as well.  As solitary as we may feel and life may seem, we're never really walking this path alone.

The Wall May Be Coming Down

 

The tarot deck, Green Witch Tarot, has been requested for our reading today. 

• (7/wands; King/chalices; Queen/wands -- reversed)

This king and queen are wary of each other, probably in opposition at one time, as though there's been a lot of water under the bridge. The barriers and boundaries that were put up in the past, for protection and self-preservation, may be slowly dismantled now.

• Extra cards: (All reversed: Ace/pentacles; 4/chalices; 3/athames; 2/pentacles)  

One of you will step forward with an offer, an apology, or a unique opportunity, which will be a surprise.  But the question is, will this contact out-of-the-blue be accepted?  There may be some trepidation and hesitation at the sudden appearance and peace offering, probably with good cause.  There was heartache, betrayal, and estrangement here and once, long ago, choices were made.

Secrets Can Be Burdens

 

What's our Tarot Forecast have to say for today?
(6/cups -- your past; The Moon -- secrets and deception; The Hermit -- inner contemplation) ~ 

Nostalgic memories may be playing on your mind, invading mundane daily thoughts, creeping up on you when you least expect it. For someone, there's a secret you've been keeping all these years that will finally be exposed; and for others, there is a secret that will be revealed to you. Either way, you'll need some solitary time to process the ramifications and fall out from it.

Two more cards for this... (8/swords -- reversed; Death) ~ 

Both scenarios will bring a sense of release and relief, a new-found feeling of freedom. And both scenarios will wipe the slate clean, giving everyone a chance for a fresh start.

Ten Questions and the Answers You May Need

 

What do I need to know about this situation?

(3/pentacles; 8/pentacles -- reversed; The Devil)

Something isn't working, that's just the thing, and you are trying incredibly hard to MAKE it work.  Kind of like Cinderella's ugly step-sister trying futilely to shove her big ugly foot into the little glass slipper.  It's not a fit -- whatever this situation is for you, and the glass slipper is NEVER going to fit.  If you keep trying to slam a round peg into a square hole, all you'll wind up with is problems and issues that will compile with time.

What’s the best path I can take at this time?

(Ace/swords -- reversed; Justice; 7/wands)

The best path:  Silence.

You don't need to plea your case to attain justice.  There's someone who is trying to do just that, and this effort will fail them miserably.  I'm feeling that this is a court case for someone.  Stand your ground, guard your space, your integrity, and yourself.  Maintain boundaries.

How can I improve my relationship with ___________?

(Prince/cups -- reversed; Temperance; 5/swords; 4/wands) 

For the relationship on your mind:  Maintain your unique connection and energy with this person.  Don't allow differences to chip away at your relationship, because doing so will only weaken your bond.  Don't -- be defensive, pick petty squabbles, or be mean trying to prove a point... your point isn't that important. By treating your connection with this person as something valuable -- and fragile -- you'll find yourselves moving on to the next level.

What can I do to make __________happen?

(5/wands -- reversed; 9/wands -- reversed; Justice; Ace/swords -- reversed) 

To make this happen:  Stop overthinking a situation.  Stop the internal arguments and negative brain chatter.  Banish the stagnation and begin moving forward again... with a project, with a relationship, with a dream, with a goal.  Set boundaries where boundaries are needed, but don't paint yourself into a solitary corner... sometimes we need help, sometimes we need advice, sometimes we just need someone to cheer us on.

What am I not seeing at this time?

(2/cups -- reversed; 3/wands -- reversed; Ace/wands; The Sun -- reversed; The Hanged Man -- reversed)

You are not seeing...

A relationship that is going through significant changes, either you're not aware, or you are avoiding the process.

The choices that are before you, either you don't realize they exist, or you don't want to make a choice... that would mean taking responsibility for the outcome.

You're turning a blind eye to a unique opportunity the universe is laying at your feet, either you're not interested, or you are afraid of failure.  Not accepting this opportunity lets you off the hook.

You're not seeing that the lack of happiness in your life could be from stagnation, inertia, and lack of motivation.  Start moving forward and seek the Sun... make plans, do things; make plans for something that you've secretly longed to do, do stuff that everyone may have told you that you couldn't do.  Prove them wrong.

In what way am I holding myself back?



(Queen/swords -- reversed; Princess/pentacles -- reversed; Judgement; 7/wands -- reversed; 8/swords; The Hierophant)


You are holding yourself back by...

Isolating yourself, then feeling trapped in your own solitude.

Embracing conformity because you were told this was right, and at one time, this may have been expected from you.

You are holding yourself  back by holding  your tongue, either because you don't think saying what's on your mind would be appropriate or nice, or it could cause friction.  There are times when you don't have to be nice or appropriate, and friction makes heat and heat makes fire and fire burns off the weeds.

You're holding yourself back with  your naiveté.  Don't be afraid to look at and acknowledge gritty, dirty, uncomfortable things that need to be acknowledged in order to be avoided.

Don't miss second chances.

Don't be super critical of yourself, cut yourself some slack.  Someone needs to.

What can I expect if I choose _____________?

(Princess/swords -- reversed; The Hermit; 6/pentacles -- reversed; King/pentacles; 3/swords; 4/pentacles; 5/pentacles)

If  you choose to contact someone, expect some uncomfortable and difficult conversation.

If you choose the wrong relationship for the wrong reasons, expect some heartache.

If you're hanging onto your money and embracing your finances with miserly hugs, expect an unexpected expense or a request for financial aide from someone.

If you choose a solitary path, expect some unexpected enlightenment.  It will be your spiritual "aha" moment.

If you expect some equal give and take... in a relationship, in a financial situation, in a family dynamic... expect to be awash in the golden glow of stability.

How can I understand _________?



A relationship breakup, separation, or divorce...

(2/wands; Princess/wands -- reversed; 6/swords; Queen/cups)

It's not always someone's "fault", sometimes relationships just come to a natural conclusion.  Not all connections that we make are meant to last a life time, sometimes people cross our path briefly when there's something we need to learn from them, or something they need to learn from us.

Sometimes the passion just dissipates, it just does.

Sometimes you may get tired of waiting for another person to make up their mind about their feelings for you and your future together... but here's the thing -- you don't have to wait helplessly for an endless period of time to see if someone is going to make a decision to love you and have a life with you.  You have the power to make a decision to move on if you're tired of waiting.("Here, let me decide for you", you can say.)

Where should I direct my energy at this time?

(4a/wands -- reversed; Princess/wands; The High Priestess; 2/cups -- reversed; 3/wands; Ace/wands)

At this time, your energy should be...

Focused on your personal happiness and pursuing those things that you are passionate about.

Your energy should be set loose from a difficult situation to follow new adventures and meet new people.

Your energy should be focused inward toward your intuitive spiritual self.  There are enlightening "aha" experiences awaiting you on this plane.

Make a decision or choice... with passion.

Why does this pattern keep showing up in my life — and what can I do to change it?

(The Sun; 8/cups -- reversed; Strength; 8/pentacles -- reversed; **Queen/wands (R)/King/wands**; 10/pentacles)

This pattern is showing up because...

You left something behind which brought you great happiness, and you are under the assumption that you're not strong enough to go back and recapture it.  This is your pattern, and it has left a trail in its wake.

To change it, you need to change your thought patterns...

Expect something worthwhile to require a certain amount of work.  You may also be searching for this perfect ideal of what you think happiness is.  Let's garner a more realistic view.  Take control of your life back if you have, over time, unwittingly relinquished it to a spouse, partner, parent, or other individual.  

Crazy Tarot Lady! ~ outdoor reading with 45 mph wind gusts

 

(I taped this reading in a tent with both ends open on the west side of our house. The 45 to 50 mph wind gusts were awesome, and the energy was amazing!!) 

Someone has a lot on their plate, burning the candle at both ends, busy and involved with two very separate and demanding roles in their life. To add to it all, you might have feelings of self-doubt about your ability to carry this off, and you also might have someone, possibly two people, who are contributing to these feelings with their criticism and complaints. And the saga continues...

The Spirits Speak ~ stop fighting it

 

• The Spirits Speak... (9/cups; 7/wands; 2/swords) 

You are very tired of fighting something... what? -- other people's expectations? pressure to conform? personal demons? Give it a rest, put it down. Be still and focus. There's a decision right before you that you may not have realized is even an option... Choose, make a decision. Once you do, life and all it's jigsaw pieces will fall into place. 

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Setting Boundaries & Making Choices ~ don't throw a wrench in the middle of it

 

Sometimes tarot works in mysterious ways, and sometimes it puts before us things that we'd rather not think about or acknowledge. But sometimes this is what's needed. This is a reading for anyone who has a difficult time setting boundaries, and anyone who tends to be impulsive when it comes to choices. As the title says, "Don't throw a wrench into what you have."

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Searching For an Ex on Social Media ~ 13 things you need to know

"Social media has opened the door to instant updates on former S.O.s, ex-lovers, and the proverbial ones who got away. It's only natural that you might want to find out more about their current life and loves, and check in to see how life has treated them. But curiosity and accessibility may also inspire those of us who do not have professional detective skills to advanced levels of snooping, lurking, and occasionally obsessing over photos of an ex's current life.

Reconnections with former sweethearts can be fun and may sometimes lead to a second chance at love. But there is a whole other cyber can of worms you might open each time you enter the name of a former flame into a search engine—especially if you or your ex are already spoken for."

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• 1. It's natural to want to see what an ex is up to. In other words, you are not a crazy stalker. "From an evolutionary perspective, it is honestly pretty normal behavior to cyber-stalk an ex, especially if you are looking for information about his or her new potential partner," says Somich. "A woman's natural instinct—talking cavewomen—is to look after her babies and partner and to fight anyone threatening that." Kids or not, some women tend to want all the information they can get and social media makes that easy, she says. "The good news is that once you're actually over an ex, the urge to cyber-stalk significantly reduces."

• 2. But you've got to own up to your motives. There's a vast difference between satisfying your natural curiosity about whatever happened to so-and-so and searching for the partner who was the best sex you ever had because you think the grass is greener on the other side of your committed relationship. "Too often people are driven to reconnect when they are bored, lonely, or frustrated with life," says cognitive therapist Paul DePompo, PsyD, ABPP, author of The Other Woman's Affair. "If this is the case for you, it is not the right time, even though it may seem like the best option." DePompo and many experts suggest that you communicate directly with the person you are in relationship with—and spend time making changes, rather than trying to avoid problems by fantasizing about an old flame. "I have seen many affairs emerge due to online searches and reconnecting to past exes," he says. "It often starts innocent and ends horribly."

• 3. You may get a second chance at love. That said, sometimes the timing is right. There are many tales about former sweethearts finding each other years and decades later. "It's only been about ten to 15 years that we've been able to easily look for an ex-lover," says Michael Arn, PsyD, an expert in relationship psychology, intimacy and communications. Reaching out is a great idea if both parties are open to it and free to pursue. "The ability to reconnect with an ex when the timing is right for both of you, has led to many former couples rekindling a relationship and making it last," he says.

• 4. Even if you're single or divorced, you still need to think before searching. When you locate a past love and your heart goes pitter-patter, it is easy to get excited. "If you are single, free, ready for a relationship and you feel you have learned from the past, then there is nothing wrong with reaching out to see if the flame can reignite now that you have grown," says DePompo. But it is always a gamble that can possibly trigger regret, he says. It's important to keep the rose-colored glasses off so you can see clearly who this person is today.

• 5. You can begin to make amends. For some people, finding a sense of completion or forgiveness for ways they may have hurt an ex is important. "Reaching out to say you are sorry is appropriate, if you are sorry, and if you don't expect something in return," say Dr. Gail Saltz, MD, psychiatrist and host of "The Power of Different" podcast. "It can make a very big difference to the lasting impact of hurt, to apologize and if you are estranged, social media may be the only mechanism." She says to lead with, "I am sorry for…" But be warned: Social media can allow two people to set things right, but it's not the place to send a message saying you want to get back together, or to have the entire apology conversation. "While you may start that way, if things get complex, a conversation is no doubt better," says Dr. Saltz.

• 6. Realize that you may not be seeing things realistically. Consider the possibility that the one who got away… got away for a reason. "If it didn't work out the first time (or second, third or fourth), it probably won't work out the fifth," says relationship expert Allison Abrams, LCSW. She says we hang on to old loves that have long expired because our selective memory tends to kick in. "Suddenly all of the ugly, negative parts of the relationship that made us leave in the first place, get suppressed, no longer exist, or are minimized," she says. Our skewed memory of actual events leaves us with recall of only the positive aspects of the person and, she adds, "Oscar-worthy scenes in our heads of the good times."

• 7. Sexual attraction can trick your brain into thinking it's love. The allure of an ex can lead us to believe our former flames are better than our current loves, says Love Biologist Dawn Maslar, author of Men Chase, Women Choose: The Neuroscience of Meeting, Dating, Losing Your Mind, and Finding True Love. "If they find the person and the attraction is still there, this can trigger the release of norepinephrine," she says. "That's what gives you feeling of attraction such as sweaty palms and rapid heartbeat." Physical reactions and sexual desire can be mistaken for love. "This can be compounded especially if it's a first love or very emotional love, because norepinephrine causes those [happy] memories to be more dominant in the brain." In real time, the good ole days—and your ex—may not have been as great as they seem now.

• 8. The urge to connect is often just wistfulness for the past. Just as we enjoy seeing movies that remind us of certain times of life, an ex can conjure memories of a more carefree, romantic, or sexy time. "People are often driven to reconnect by nostalgia," points out marriage and family therapist Talia Wagner. Sometimes we wish we could go back and do it better. "Time serves its part in our ability to reflect on old relationships and hindsight allows us to think about things that we could have said or done differently." She says the desire to return to former loves especially heats up when our current lives do not materialize the way we would have liked.

• 9. There's a greater risk of having an emotional affair. Inappropriate bonds can form way before anyone takes their clothes off. "It is just too easy to reconnect and remember only the good feelings, the lust, the feeling [of being] appreciated without being reminded of the lousy times," says Saltz. "This is why [reconnecting] leads to a seemingly intense emotional connection quickly—because of the romantic history, [there's] an increased likelihood of flirtation and movement into a romantic attachment." She and so many experts advise not looking up an ex if you are in a current relationship that you don't want to ruin. "It's just a slippery slope," she says.

• 10. Images of a happy ex can haunt you like a ghost. Swimwear designer Jennifer Lowe wishes she'd never accidentally stumbled on her ex's page. "You don't want to make that first click because it's a downward spiral and it's not going to make you feel any better," she says. "Even if his new girlfriend looks awful, is 50 pounds heavier, and is much older," she points out. Seeing it with your own eyes can lead to jealousy or wondering what would had been. "I've already mourned the loss once," she says, which is why she looked away and never looked back. Arn adds, "It's human nature to compare ourselves to other people and even to compare our current dating life with our ex's." But don't linger in their world. "Make sure to be getting out there and to be living in the present moment with the people in your real life," he says.

• 12. You may be prone to inappropriate cyber etiquette. Don't take the bait if it seems like an ex is posting things to make you feel bad on purpose. "At least do yourself a favor and resist the urge to comment, post, call, email, message, or express any jealousy or anger based on what you've seen," says Somich. "If you are afraid you might react this way it means you are not ready. Your ex deserves privacy. If they are posting things just to provoke a jealous reaction from you then they are not for you." She says be the bigger person, ignore it, and move on.

• 13. Your heart can get your heart broken... again. And it may take longer to heal. Jesse Fox and Robert S. Tokunaga researched breakup-related "interpersonal surveillance," which they also referred to as "Facebook stalking," and shared their findings in the September 2015 edition of Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking. "Analysis of the data provided by 464 participants revealed that Facebook surveillance was associated with greater current distress over the breakup, more negative feelings, sexual desire, and longing for the ex-partner, and lower personal growth," they wrote. Frequent monitoring of an ex-partner's Facebook page and list of friends, even when one was not a Facebook friend of the ex-partner, was common. And certain information intensifies heartbreak, such as news that the former partner is involved in a new relationship, they wrote. The research showed that people who constantly monitored their ex via Facebook found it harder to move on.

The Spirits Speak ~ Should you take this relationship to the next level?

 

• (2/cups; The Hermit; Ace/pentacles -- extra cards: 4/wands -- reversed; 5/swords -- reversed)
  
  

There's a significant relationship choice or decision here.  A unique opportunity is presenting itself, and if you're not afraid to give up your stubborn independence, you may be contemplating something, something that's possibly been on your mind for quite some time.  You've been mulling this over in your head, quite a bit actually, okay -- obsessively then, you know you have. 

The question is: Should you take this relationship to the next level?  

The big question is: Should you propose?

Some of you might find yourselves conflicted when it comes to the answers.  For a few of you, it's because you hesitate to give up your independence and the solitude that you can rightfully still claim for periods of time.  For others, there are issues within the relationship that need clarifying, issues that need to be resolved before you take the next step, issues that, so far, have been heavy on your mind, but remain unspoken.

It's time to speak up.

It's In the Cards ~ "Do I stay, or do I go..."

 

Seeking domestic bliss by redefining exactly what a "happy family" is suppose to be; seeking stability in your decisions and course of action; knowing when to stay and work on what you have... because it's worth it.

Your Daily Cards

• The Spirits Speak... (7/cups; 6/swords; 6/pentacles)

You are faced with numerous decisions. It feels mind boggling, doesn't it. And the decision you make will determine whether you stay, or move on. I'm hearing in my head the words and music from a song.. "Do I stay, or do I go...". There's no longer equal give or take with a situation, and you may feel that there are difficult changes which must be made. The correct decision, and necessary changes, will return equilibrium to your existence. Good thing.

I was close!... Here ya' go, just cause, this was the melody running through my head!

Should I Stay, Or Should I Go

Two Readings ~ everything from "double devils" to serious isolation

 

This reading started off as someone just getting in their own way, disrupting their ability to manifest those things in life they desire. At the end, with the last batch of cards, came the dawning realization that this was something much more serious. If you recognize yourself in this reading, please ask someone for help; if you recognize someone else in this video, please check on them.

You may be having a problem manifesting something into your life. The possibilities for success and wish-fulfilment are there, clearly, but you’re going to have to literally overcome one set of obsessions or addictions for another in order to reach your goals.

If these videos resonate with you be sure to Like and Subscribe at YouTube. I also welcome comments and feedback. At this point, I have no idea if my videos are successfully reaching viewers, or if my readings resonate with people. As much as I love doing these readings, they are a lot of work to film and to edit. I’m seriously considering shutting down shop and finding another outlet for my creative ventures. My YouTube channels are not monetized, I create these readings for the public for free. I hope that you take away something from these general tarot readings or that you were at least entertained, and I sincerely hope that we’ve made a good tarot connection… until next time, Amythyst