Episode #36 -- Audio Version, Daily Cards/Daily Wisdom ~ choices, decisions, results

 

I haven't done one of these in quite a while, there's other things about the world that just seem more pressing right now. But it was good to sit down with the cards again, and as always, some of the insights left me with a "where did this come from" feeling... enjoy -- and take heed. There's a message here for someone.

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23 (Very Down-to-Earth) Signs You've Found Your Soul Mate

 

• 1. You enjoy doing boring things together like shopping, going to the pharmacy or filing tax returns.

• 2. You have a better time eating out on the sofa than having dinner in a three-star restaurant.

• 3. One of the things you like the most about him is being able to eat anything you want without worrying about what he will think.

• 4. The moment you really fell for him was after seeing him sleep, his face relaxed with his mouth open.

• 5. And you’re just as comfortable with the idea that he sees yours … drooling and everything.

• 6. Obviously, you like it when you are on your 31. But you both just as much like to see yourselves in pajamas, or your favorite worn t-shirt, natural!

• 7. You cherish his handwritten cards and little words, even more than any expensive gift he has given you.

• 8. He reminds you of such and such a thing whenever necessary and vice versa.

• 9. No smartphone required. You have a lot more fun with your little corner smiles after a shared private joke during a meal, or at any other moment of sharing that you are the only ones to understand.

• 10. He excels in encouraging speeches, but nevertheless refuses to pamper you too much.

• 11. You talk – and laugh – openly about how the body works.

• 12. When you go to a wedding together, what you prefer is not necessarily the moment of emotion but simply the act of enjoying a quiet corner in a cozy huddle.

• 13. You have developed your own lexicon: words and expressions invented or not but which have a special meaning for you.

• 14. You know each other so well that you would probably answer 9 of the 10 questions we would ask him about Action or Truth.

• 15. The sweet little words that you use in your private conversations are not so sweet… They are rather nicknames such as: “idiot” or “buddy”. And in fact, you prefer as much as it is.

• 16. You don’t feel sick when he has the flu or is sick, because all you care about is taking care of him.

• 17. His problems and issues are your problems and issues, and vice versa. 

• 18. You can experience moments of silence without being embarrassed.

• 19. In fact, relaxing together in complete silence without feeling the need to find topics for discussion is one of the things you prefer in your relationship... that and reading books.

• 20. You would never betray yourself by watching an episode of “Criminal Minds” without the other. You’ve made a deal, the full CMs sessions are done together, and you’re both planning to stick with it!

• 21. He buys you your favorite candies or delicacies, and when he buys you flowers, he knows they will be dried and put to good use.

• 22. He makes you laugh in extremely serious and inappropriate situations.

• 23. You would rather spend a zero day with him a thousand times than go to the most extraordinary meeting in the world with another.

Source for this blog post:

https://livetheglory.com/relationship-advice/23-signs-not-very-romantic-that-you-have-found-your-soul-mate/

Relationship Issues ~ Compilation of Links to Blog Posts

The following blog post titles are links that will take you to relationship posts.  If you recognize an issue in this list, follow the link to find out how you can cope with it, or resolve the problem.  You'll also find posts that celebrate and encourage happy partnerships.

Is Your Partner Emotionally Unstable ~ here's a checklist

Narcissists ~ why they deliberately try to make their partners jealous

Emotional Cheating ~ 10 signs that's what you're doing

Are You Spiritually Connected to Your Partner ~ Here's 7 signs you are

If An Ex Contacts You Out-of-the-Blue

Twin Flames ~ Do we all have one?... and other questions

Searching For an Ex On Social Media ~ 13 things you need to know

Mid-Life Crisis ~ the signs and symptoms

When Does Flirting Become Cheating ~ 9 red flags

Cheating and Sexual Addiction ~ 6 Types of Cheaters

Forever Engagements ~ It's a Thing!

Emotional Deprivation Disorder ~ and the inability to maintain healthy relationships

Facebook and Couples ~ browsing separately together

Relationships ~ The Serial Over-lapper

How to Get Revenge on a Cheating Husband

The Myth of the Golden Age of Marriage

8 Signs Someone is Jealous of Your Relationship

15 Signs His Friends Don't Like You

Cougars versus Dirty Old Men

8 Reasons Why Sex is Better After 50

5 Drama-Free Ways to Announce Your Engagement

Chronic Cheaters

Some Ex-cellent Ex-advice

Twin Flames ~ Understanding the Connection

23 (Very Down-to-Earth) Signs You've Met Your Soul Mate

Abandonment Issues ~ How it affects relationships

Dating After Divorce ~ Your Checklist of Do's & Don'ts

Your Ex ~ Signs They Are Over You

10 Signs Revealing His Ex is On His Mind

10 Ways to Tell He's Lying

Second Time Around ~ Should You Remarry Your Ex?

When Your Ex is Stalking You

Seven Ways to Introduce Your Boyfriend After 50

The Loneliness of the Long Distance Breakup

Do's and Don'ts ~ What You Shouldn't be Doing With Anyone But Your Partner

Text Message Cheating

When You Fall In Love With the Guy Whose Still In Love With His Ex

8 Signs Your New Partner is Not Over Their Ex

Dealing With a Jealous Ex-Spouse

Signs Your Ex Wants You Back

My Ex-Wife and My New Wife Don't Get Along

Relationships ~ 4 Situations That May Be Considered Cheating

When He's Stuck in a Codependent Relationship with His Ex

The Naked Truth ~ Why Sex After 50 Is Still Hot

Advice for Those With Divorce Regret

Is Talking to Your Ex-Spouse Normal?

Celebrating Soul Mates ~ Signs You've Met Your Soul Mate

Signs He's Still in Love With His Ex

When Someone Responds to Your Boundaries With Anger

Seven Secrets to a Healthy Relationship Over 50

Divorce ~ Cut the Marital Cord Already!

Wedding Showers ~ Creating Sacred Space

Why Falling in Love Over 50 Kicks Ass

What If Your Spouse is Having an Emotional Affair?

Eight Signs You've Met Your Soul Mate

Eight Ways Lying is Poisonous to a Relationship

How To Break It Off With an Ex Who Won't Let Go...

Wedding Showers ~ Creating Sacred Space

Wedding Showers

We celebrate the fact that one becomes two. We celebrate the success of finding a mate. Yes, we do, even though most feminists might flinch at this. She did good, they'll say, eye-balling the future husband, holding him up to their personal measuring stick. But this is not only the celebration of a coupling, it's celebrating the creation of a new family. As the future bride opens her pretty packaged gifts, this will be evident amongst all the shiny new pots and pans, the toaster, and the coffee-maker. This woman and her fiance will be setting up house, preparing for a lifetime together to build memories, to raise children, to grow old together. In our modern world, as progressive and feminist as we'd like to think we are, we're still chasing Prince Charming and Happy-Ever-After endings.

Creating the Home = Creating Sacred Space

The Kitchen

For most families, this is the center of the home, the hearth-fire, where the group gathers for sustenance, for company, for recreation, for connection. I don't know about everyone else, but anything that goes down in our house goes down in the kitchen. Our large kitchen table doubles as my office, the classroom, the dining table, the game board, card table, and craft table. Things are written, sculpted, painted, eaten, played, and produced-- all at The Kitchen Table.

The kitchen is the hub, and shower gifts for this room, this special space, are prolific and fun to buy and give. But there's one big difference here, we're going to look at all of these gifts from a magickal and spiritual perspective. We're going to wallow in Bridal Mania and Goddess Energy.

• 1. Herbs...one of the coolest gifts I've seen was a huge beautiful wooden shelf full of bottles and bottles of herbs, large glass bottles. The Green Witch in me was twitching! The wooden cubby-holed rack was dark cherry wood, and the whole frame swiveled, so you could turn it, looking at four sides full of glass bottles full of wonderful magickal plants and spices. However, as grand and glorioso as this was, this wonderful gift does not have to break our piggy bank. Herbs are expensive, and they are so uniquely necessary, both mundanely and magickally, for cooking and witchy revelry.

If everyone is counting their pennies, but you still want the New Bride to start out with a well-stocked herb cabinet, each guest can bring one designated herb. Coordinate this so that each individual knows exactly what to purchase-- Aunt Lacey is in charge of Parsley; Cousin Edie is going to be responsible for Rosemary; Grandma Betty is bringing Cardamom, etc., etc.

O' Green Witch rejoice!

• 2. Pots and Pans...Oh my, this sounds so dreary, bringing to mind the scullery maid chained to the kitchen peeling potatoes, wiping sweat from her brow with her brown work-worn paw...Screeeech! (The tape rewinds)

Pots and pans, think about it...drum roll...The Cauldron!

This is where all our magick brews, it is the myth of the witch, it is Shakespearean and dramatic, highly visual, slightly daunting to the uninitiated individuals, and highly gratifying to the Witches Extraordinaire.

Mundane Pots & Pans: You know, those Teflon pots are nice for a while, but it's really a drag when the Teflon gets scratched and then begins to peel and flake; and if you're like I am, having come from a humble background, you don't just toss it out when the first few worn marks and flaws show up. If you're anything like me, you use it until it is disgusting and two or three kids have attempted to throw it out and finally hidden it so deeply within the depths of the trash that you won't find it. So, if money is an issue, but not that much of an issue, my suggestion would be stainless steel. Stainless steel pots and pans will last forever.

Magickal Pots & Pans: This part is much more fun. I'm thinking...special pots for specific magickal workings. I'm thinking color-coordinated cooking pots, those pretty bright enamel (and usually Teflon lined) pots. I know, this is an irony, but this is special! It's for magickal workings, energy building and moving and shaking. It's all about getting things done.

A green pot for health and healing, for simmering teas and making infusions, all the while tossing in the energy to fix whatever is wrong with our physical, emotional, and mental selves (You have to look at it from all those perspectives, it's all wrapped up into us.). You can use this pot to mix and heat magickal oils as well, but one word of caution here. If you're going to be using these pots for teas and such that you ingest, don't use them for other magickal creations that would contain anything poisonous or dangerous.

The rest is easy. A red pot for love and lust and passion; blue for dreams and visions, psychism, and divination; yellow for creativity and communication; and if you think you might venture into deeper waters and work with darker energies, or anything that is stronger and not meant to be ingested, why don't you get a small silver or black pot for this.

• 3. The Stove...this is the modern version of The Hearth-fire, use your imagination for the crackling flames and the dancing shadows on the wall. I also have a wonderful gift idea for the new bride and her stove. Think of the flame (the burners) as a you would a flame in a cauldron. When you've finished your magickal workings, you generally dismiss the quarters and the elements. To put the magick to rest, you can have a set of those round metal burner covers made and decorated with the symbols for the elements-- Earth, Air, Water, Fire. The symbolism and the artistry that could go into them are endless, whether you want to keep it simple and just use the correct color symbol for that element, or really go to town...birds and flying creature on the cover for Air; the sea, sea creatures, and sea shells on the cover for Water...You get the point.

The Living-room

Think of gifts geared for relaxation, for reading, for communication, as this is often a lounging and gathering place for family members. Think of things to write with; board games; books; big soft pillows and pretty small blankets for the couch or easy chair; candy dishes for the end tables or coffee table; a tea set that comes with a serving tray. I can see all of these delightful things in my mind, and I can see the space that they're meant for being cozy and inviting, where you feel comfortable and relaxed.

The idea of communication and creativity come to me when I think of a living room space, which steers me towards CDs, books, DVDs (movies! Yay!)...something to watch, listen to, or read.

The living room, think serenity and peace, think communication and connection.

The Bathroom

• The element: Water

The main intent and purpose in this room: Cleansing!

Did you ever wonder why, in so many bathrooms you see, people just naturally tend to decorate with sea themes, sea and water creatures, sea shells and other things of the ocean, or water related? I really believe it's some ingrained instinct, not fashionable decorating fads, that leads them to these water based interior designs for the bathroom.

So, we got the water creatures and stuff down pat, but there's other things to think about that would make incredible and magickal shower gifts for the bathroom:

Large glass bowls or lidded containers filled with herbs aligned to the element of water-- belladonna, catnip, calamus cardamom, henbane, valerian, raspberry, rose, myrrh, passion flower, and on and on it goes (pick up Scott Cunningham's book, "Encyclopedia of Magickal Herbs"). And while we're at it, what about live potted plants for the bathroom? I'd love live plants for shower gifts, and I'm betting other women would too-- roses, jasmine, gardenias, or African violets, all connected with the element of Water.

Candles, so obvious! When you fill the tub with nice hot water, topping it off with a handful of herbs and pinch of this or that with a dollop of bubbly stuff, you're going to light candles to set the mood for your bathing experience. *Ding*...that was the light-bulb going off in my head! It's saying, "Time to shop!" How fun to look for candles and candle holders for someone's bathroom; and it might be a good idea to play heavily on the personal likes and tastes of the new little bride you're buying these magickal gifts for. Candle holders will add so much to the personal aspect of it, holders in different styles, colors, and shapes (animals, leaves, and such). Have fun! Shop till you drop, then go home and run yourself a nice full tub of water and prepare to relax.

The Bedroom

Oh my, this is the supreme sacred space, especially for the newly-wed couple; and I don't care if they've been sleeping together for years. The wedding night is going to be so magickal, this is extremely special. This space will seem somehow newly sanctified to them through a commitment ceremony. It will be sealed. It will be celebrated.

The elements? The energy?

This space is a bit conflicted on this point. There's actually two elements that will apply to this room and two very different types of energy. We'll look at both of them.

• 1. Fire: passion, lust, romantic love, all of which implies lots of energy; lots of physicality; lots of motion and a sharing of energies. This can be wonderful, but also exhausting.

• 2. Water: peace, dreams, visions, of course. This is where you sleep, where your body renews itself, where your mind relaxes, where your sub-conscious can take over and you can soar in your dreams.

What a wonderful, yet complicated, space to create. Depending upon the couple and their circumstances, you might want magickal gifts geared to fertility and sex. At the other end of the spectrum, you'll want gifts that add to the experience of relaxation and peace. I know, this room is an oxymoron, and it can get even more confusing if the energies of the two individuals who are inhabiting this space are conflicting, or even polar opposites.

For the wedding shower, offer up a bit of magickal energy and a touch of the goddess through crystals and stones; salt lamps; candles; herbs; mojo bags for protection, fertility, cleansing; statuary that inspires, inspirational CD/DVDs that will add a certain ambiance to the atmosphere.

What If Your Spouse is Having an Emotional Affair?

It usually starts out innocently enough. Your spouse has to get an important project done and needs help from a co-worker. It’s only natural that they would talk about their personal lives when they are spending so much time together. Or maybe your spouse is scrolling through social media one day and finds that a former lover sent him/her a “friend” request. So they start to talk “for old time’s sake.” That’s all it is, just talk. But you can’t stop that nagging feeling in the pit of your stomach that something’s off. Then one day, it hits you. Is your spouse having an emotional affair?

• What is an Emotional Affair? 

In the past, most people defined an affair as a sexual relationship between two people, at least one of whom was married to someone other than their affair partner. Most sexual affairs, but not all, have an emotional component to them as well. But just having feelings for someone else was never technically classified as “an affair.” 

Now, that’s changed. 

In today’s world, we expect that our spouse will not only be sexually exclusive with us, but s/he will be emotionally exclusive as well. We’re no longer okay if our spouse happens to fall in love with someone else, so long as s/he doesn’t have sex with that person. 

An emotional affair then is an inappropriate emotional closeness with someone other than your spouse. That emotional connection in turn affects the level of intimacy, emotional distance, and the overall dynamic of your marriage. 

In short, an emotional affair involves your heart, but not necessarily any other body part. To say that an emotional affair isn’t sexual, however, is not necessarily true. 

• Is an Emotional Affair Really Cheating? 

According to world-renowned couples therapist, Esther Perel, infidelity contains one or more of these three elements: 

1. Secrecy 
2. Sexual Tension
3. Emotional Involvement 

Interestingly, this definition of infidelity does not require two people to actually have sex. Having a secret emotional relationship constitutes infidelity just as much as “hooking up” with someone outside of your marriage. 

What’s more, an emotional affair can be just as hurtful, sometimes even more hurtful, than a full blown sexual affair. More than anything else, the secrecy of the emotional affair is what makes it so devastating. It’s also what makes it a betrayal. 

The fact that your spouse may not have had sex with his/her new “friend” isn’t nearly as hurtful as the fact that s/he lied to you about his/her relationship. 

What’s more, just because two people aren’t having sex, that doesn’t necessarily mean that their relationship isn’t exploding with sexual tension. As Esther Perel so aptly puts it in her ground-breaking book The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity. 

“Clearly, affairs can be sexual without a penis entering a vagina, and in such cases it is more helpful to call a spade a spade.” 

Sometimes, the lack of physical contact is exactly what makes a relationship erotic. 

• But We’re “Just Friends!” 

Some relationships really do lack the sexual tension that characterizes a typical affair. People joke about having a “work wife” – someone they spend a lot of time with, but aren’t involved with romantically. Sometimes those relationships are truly platonic. 

After all, just because you spend a lot of time working with someone doesn’t mean that you are having “A Relationship” with them. 

What makes the difference between a working relationship and an affair is the lack of ANY of the three factors Esther Perel has identified as characterizing infidelity. 

The spouse in the working relationship isn’t hiding any part of that relationship from his/her spouse. S/he is not sending furtive texts to their “work buddy” in the middle of the night. S/he is not sharing personal secrets and long-held dreams with their co-worker instead of with their spouse. 

A truly platonic relationship also lacks the sexual tension that characterizes an affair. Neither person in the relationship is flirting with the other. Neither is making inappropriate remarks or sexually-charged suggestions to the other. 

Finally, in a truly platonic relationship, the emotional connection that the people in that relationship share is typically minimal. Sure, they care about each other. But they care about you like a parent or a sibling. They don’t care like lovers care. 

• Why Does Emotional Cheating Hurt so Much? 

At its core, an affair – any kind of affair – is a betrayal of trust. When you discover that your spouse has been calling, texting, or spending time with someone else without your knowing about it, you feel violated. You feel like someone just hacked into your body with an ice pick and pulled your heart, and your guts, out right through your skin. 

It feels that bad. 

What makes that feeling even worse in emotional affairs is that the offending party might not even think they did anything wrong. 

“I didn’t touch him/her! Why are you so mad? We’re just friends!” 

Or, worse yet, the offending party may get mad at YOU for being “controlling,” “petty,” and “insecure!” 

So, on top of dealing with your own emotional devastation, you — also have to deal with your cheating spouse’s anger, denial, and defensiveness as well. That makes recovering from an emotional affair pretty much impossible. 

After all, if your spouse can’t even acknowledge your pain, s/he certainly can’t help you work through it. What’s more, if your spouse cares more about staying connected with someone else than s/he does about staying connected with you, your marriage isn’t likely to last very long. (Sorry!) 

SOURCE 

https://karencovy.com/cheating-spouse-having-emotional-affair/

Eight Signs You've Met Your Soul Mate

Yes, soul mates exist and this is a real phenomena, just ask me.  The past year of my life led to an amazing and magickal connection unlike anything I've ever experienced.  No, the intensity of the emotions don't calm down with time, but there is a deeper understanding and a larger picture of life together that grows from this connection.

No, you won't necessarily find your soul mate early in life, or with first loves in that early stage of wonder.  Some of us have to wait a life-time.

Below are eight signs that will signal a soul mate connection for you.  Please follow the link below to read the complete article in all of it's wonderful glorious details... you're going to want to be prepared.

• 1.  You Have an Intense Intuition... upon first meeting.
• 2.  You're Best Friends
• 3.  There's Mutual Respect
• 4.  You Have the Same Vision of the Future
• 5.  You Challenge Each Other
• 6.  You Fight for Your Relationship
• 7.  You Can Be Apart, But Prefer Being Together
• 8.  You're Comfortable Being Authentic

SOURCE:  Read the complete article at this link:

http://www.thelawofattraction.com/8-signs-youve-found-soul-mate/

Woman Speak 3-6-2015

This week the goddess is Airmed.  The topics are herbs and green witchcraft.  Our project-- we're going to create a Witch's Bottle for Love Magick.  You'll also find a section at this video on precautions for love magick, encouraging common sense, as well as the use of mundane efforts to keep your life running smoothly, and to keep yourself safe.  The National Domestic Abuse Hotline number will be found at the end of this video.

 

 

Love After 50

When someone totally unexpected comes into your life, it shakes it all up, turning everything upside down/inside out...it changes everything.  It changes what you thought you wanted; it changes your plans for the future; it opens new doors; it quietly closes old ones; and it opens your heart and mind to life's adventures.

"Take me by the hand", I tell this man, "and I'll follow you anywhere."

The sudden realization of complete trust and unconditional love is an overwhelming wonderment, one of humanity's miracles.  It's as amazing to find yourself giving it, as well as receiving it.